does she like me?

[docpete]

How can I tell if this girl at school likes me?

We have known each other for some time but I think there is more closeness between us now that we are older and in our last year at highschool. We tend to be talking and hanging out together far more that we used to. Chatting on MSN, etc. She always asks what I'm up to and how I am. She even invited me to the senior ball. But how can I tell the difference between good friends, or something more? I'm really introverted and it would be almost impossible for me to make a move or anything like that.

[RoxyFoxy]

How would you know unless you put her in the situation of her letting you get a glance at some hint of evidence that she has feelings for you? If you don't want to "make a move", you are just going to watch someone else make a move and watch as she is swept away by him, thinking that it could have been you.

Women dislike men who do not want to make a move. Why should we make the move? We can simply wait until a real man comes along and makes the first move. In reality, we do make the first move, but we set things up so the man can make the more obvious move.

Think about it, she invited you to the ball. She asks you how you are, I don't ask my mother how she is. She's trying to let you get the hint, that she likes you. She's also waiting for you to get it! If you don't get it soon, she may find someone else that will. Time is running out.

[docpete]

Hmmm. That was what I was thinking. My biggest fear is making the move and being rejected or her just saying we're friends.

[shh!]

Being rejected is a part of life, but you need to learn not to personalize it. It's all about numbers for most people.

But seriously, if she asked you to some dance, my guess is that she likes you. Why don't you just ask her if you are supposed to consider it a date or a "just friends" situation?

[lilwing89]

Women dislike men who do not want to make a move. Why should we make the move? We can simply wait until a real man comes along and makes the first move. In reality, we do make the first move, but we set things up so the man can make the more obvious move.

not all of them, just women like you...since when do "real men" have the definition of "making the first move"??? that was some sexist statement! what is soooooo different about guys that we HAVE to make the first move? you know this is 2005 its not old fashion anymore, girls can make the first move, there is no law that states "women cant make the first move" or "men have to make the first move", so quit bitching about how you expect guys to make the first move.

as for you doc pete, have you hung out with her outside of highschool?

im in highschool to and a junior so maybe ill be some help to ya...well the first thing is her friends would prolly like you atleast as a friend right? they would talk to you and stuff..perhaps even about her..so you could casually ask them something like "does she talk about me sometimes" and if they say something like "she talks about you all the time!" then your good to go, chances are she likes ya alot. her friends are one of the things you can figure this out by. especially if your introverted from the way it sounds..

but my gf doesnt share her feelings about guys with her friends so it might not be the best way...perhaps the best way is to not tell her your true feelings until your sure she likes you..and the absolute best way to find out is to just go directly to her and ask. if she does, then make the move!
and voila!

good luck dude.

[Ellynn]

Being rejected is a part of life, but you need to learn not to personalize it. It's all about numbers for most people.

But seriously, if she asked you to some dance, my guess is that she likes you. Why don't you just ask her if you are supposed to consider it a date or a "just friends" situation?

Couldn't have said it better myself! Yeah definately ask her how she would consider it.....a date or just friends? Its a subtle way of finding out how she feels about you....without really putting yourself out there.

[Airborne]

How can I tell if this girl at school likes me?

Be a man and go straight out and ask her what she would think of being in a relationship with you!

Or you could try something more subtle like sending her a rose from a "secret" admirer or something. Or start calling her "Darling" or something along those lines. If she play's along then thats a very good start, though it may not mean she has feelings for you.