Should i ask her out? - Love Forum

globalvariable · #1 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 10:18 AM

Hi

I am a desi guy in australia. At my workplace is this gorgeous but shy local girl whom i talk to on regular basis and most of our talk is on issues related to work. Last week she asked me "What are u doin tommorow(Sunday)". I have observed that she is more open when she talks to other guys, but goes blank and red while talkin to me(Just like me, actually!). Could it be that she is interested in me or it's just because of cultural differences she is shy?
I was thinkin of asking her out for a movie or dinner next time we meet.
Shall i do it or wait for sometime or never do it?

THANKS

globalvariable · #2 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 10:21 AM

Just wanted to add some info here..

I am 23 and she is 18.

gHEXjt · #3 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 10:30 AM

If you like her and think she may be into you, just go for it. What do you have to lose? Besides the first 5 seconds after she says no, if she says no of course, you won't feel bad at all.

globalvariable · #4 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 11:06 AM

>>>>"If you like her and think she may be into you, just go for it"

Yes i like her. But iam not sure if she is into me. All the time i am judging this from her actions and what she is sayin. Sometimes she just ignores me, sometimes she pretends that she has work near me so that i can talk to her or can accompony her to station(I am pretty sure). She talks about she playin soccer but just ignores my trials to get into personal conversation. She smokes in front of me like a tomboy but gets shy when i smoke in front of her. She has asked me "What are u doin tomorrow"..but due to her random nature i cannot take it as her interest in me. She always stays at an arms distance from me.
So you can see now that i just can't read her mind. Of course i can ask her out and see what happens but i don wanna ask her if she is really not interested. Coz that will further complicate my already pissed off life(I am not that always take it easy kinda guy, i do get senti)!!!

So what u guys think from the description. Is she interested in me?

THANKS

gHEXjt · #5 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 11:16 AM

There's no way for us to tell if she's interested in you. Everybody is different in circumstances like this. I'm not too easy going either, but I still say go for it. Who cares if she says no? It doesn't mean she dislikes you, it just means she doesn't like you like that.

bluesummer · #6 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 01:39 PM

My guess is she could be interested in you she gets shy around you or goes red. But like the other poster said, you're not going to know unless you go for it. See if she wants to do something 'casually' with you one day, not a date or anything. Go from there.

I doubt it's cultural differences, my bf is a desi from Australia too, and it never deterred me

globalvariable · #7 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 10:13 PM

THANK you very much!

I have my guidance now

I hafta ask her

Thatz final

Now if she says NO to goin out .. hat should be my attitude towards her? As before, Ignore her or something else?

THANKS

globalvariable · #8 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 10:14 PM

Now if she says NO to goin out .. What should be my attitude towards her? As before, Ignore her or something else?

globalvariable · #9 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 10:17 PM

Actually it could be asking for something "casual" instead of "out"

globalvariable · #10 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 09:24 AM

Just tryin to put it up on pile...

TAVS · #11 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 09:52 AM

Why dont you ask her out first. If she says No, then ask your followup question.

globalvariable · #12 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:20 AM

i cannot as her!!!

BCOZ she won't talk to me anymore!

And she is like talkin to everyone else in front of me with lots of "bad words" and aggression. (Which she didn't do before)

What happened???

Iam BLANK!

TAVS · #13 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:25 AM

Say what? Did you do something?

globalvariable · #14 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:29 AM

I didn't do anything!
I think her intution told her that iam goin to ask her out or something.
but i dunno!

I didn't do anything!

The worst i could have done is when i ignored her two days ago. But i did that coz i was like hell nervous that day!

globalvariable · #15 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 11:51 AM

Thanx for ur help!