I have no chance at getting a GF ever

[Stevo]

I'll never get a GF. Everyone in the school hates me it seems everytime I walk by someone they make fun of me. I try to talk with girls of all kind but even the not so looking girls shut me down. I cant make friends. I wish I was a differnt person. Anyone have advice on how to get a GF

[wezol]

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Originally Posted by Stevo

I'll never get a GF. Everyone in the school hates me it seems everytime I walk by someone they make fun of me. I try to talk with girls of all kind but even the not so looking girls shut me down. I cant make friends. I wish I was a differnt person. Anyone have advice on how to get a GF

1st-Loose the goofy look on your face, act like you give a damn.
2nd-Learn to wear a hat.
3rd-Get some sleep to loose the bags under your eyes.
4th-Stop trying to get people to feel sorry for you.
5th-Is that a gold chain on your neck? Loose it.

May as well say it cause I know someone else will and it is the truth
6th-Be yourself

[Stevo]

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Originally Posted by wezol

1st-Loose the goofy look on your face, act like you give a damn.
2nd-Learn to wear a hat.
3rd-Get some sleep to loose the bags under your eyes.
4th-Stop trying to get people to feel sorry for you.
5th-Is that a gold chain on your neck? Loose it.

May as well say it cause I know someone else will and it is the truth
6th-Be yourself

1. Thats how I always look
2. Hat or not it's not going to change what ppl think
3. I was born with those bags some rare thing I'll never loose them
4. It was a question
5. What wrong with the chain?

Not trying to be a smartass I just need some help with school starting soon I want to be a changed man!

[bluesummer]

You look exactly like my 15 yr old cousin, and he gets lots of chicks....HOT chicks. I think half of it is personality.

You know, I was exactly like you when I was in hs, and I always wished I could go back and give myself the following advice:

1) The people that mock you are the losers
2) If someone doesn't like you, that's their problem
3) Do whatever it is you love to do, and enjoy it
4) Don't change yourself to impress people
5) Smiles and friendliness go a lot further than attitude or being anti social

Seriously, if people are making fun of you, they're doing it cuz they know it bugs you. Ignore them, and they get bored. Just open up to people, lose the low self confidence, and you'll make friends. You'll even make friends with GIRLS.....and in time maybe you'll find a nice one to date. But don't get obsessed with finding a GF or it won't happen.

[gHEXjt]

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Originally Posted by bluesummer

You look exactly like my 15 yr old cousin, and he gets lots of chicks....HOT chicks. I think half of it is personality.

You know, I was exactly like you when I was in hs, and I always wished I could go back and give myself the following advice:

1) The people that mock you are the losers
2) If someone doesn't like you, that's their problem
3) Do whatever it is you love to do, and enjoy it
4) Don't change yourself to impress people
5) Smiles and friendliness go a lot further than attitude or being anti social

Seriously, if people are making fun of you, they're doing it cuz they know it bugs you. Ignore them, and they get bored. Just open up to people, lose the low self confidence, and you'll make friends. You'll even make friends with GIRLS.....and in time maybe you'll find a nice one to date. But don't get obsessed with finding a GF or it won't happen.

I agree with everything in this post. But I agree with others when I say lose the hat, or at least don't wear it like that. I can tell from your pic that you are indeed white, and the only guys that can really pull that off are black, not that they don't look dumb either when they're hats are on like that. If you want to wear a baseball hat, wear it the right way. It really does make a difference as to how people think. But just be yourself, and try to be happy. I went through a spurt last year where I was the most miserable prick ever, and I really didn't talk to anyone at school. Luckily I was still okay with my ex and buddies, but I didn't talk to anyone else. This year I've been trying to focus on just having a better outlook on life, and I feel like its working, and I'm making more friends because of it.

Also, you're in high school. Play a sport, or join some clubs. Shit, you may stink at a sport, but give it a go. You'll make some friends as long as you don't act like an *******. Also, don't wait for others to make things happen with you. Do it yourself. You meet somebody cool, call them and ask them to hang out. If they say no, **** em. Same thing with girls. Just try to lose the unhappiness. Even if you join some clubs that suck, you'll still meet some cool people. Good luck dude.

[brkn dreamz]

You know high school is just a lot of glamour issues I'm sure all of us been there and done that. Then when we go through the "I finally got me a good looking bf/gf" they either cheat on you or you just can't put up with them anymore. Just go through high school and do what you're supposed to do which is your education. It's hard because teenagers go through so much hormone changes and act upon them. I say don't worry about it and be yourself. Only you will take care of you in the long haul. If you don't understand what I'm saying .. you will one day sooner or later. Take care.

[Asip4u]

All I can say is what bluesummer already mentioned...I know it's hard but if you try to find a g/f it will most likely not happen. Losing the attitude is the first step, that's for sure. Just like many people out there, you have your strenghts and weaknesses. Use the things you're good at and that's how you'll get involved with people who share similar interests.

[Stevo]

I forgot to add the core group of kids that make fun of me have gone to school with me forever I did dumb things when I was younger and they wont let it go ever they spread it on to more people who pass it on to more. IT seems everyone knows my name and makes fun of me now.

[wezol]

If the're still making fun of you for stuff you did when you were younger than just try to laugh it off. If they say something about you doing stupid stuff turn around and be like "hey, yea it was fun as hell and I'd do it agian!" 98% of the time people make fun of other people is to get a rise out of them. If they see that they can't get a rise out of you then most likely they will loose interest. It becomes boring. Screw them.

[Airborne]

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Originally Posted by Stevo

I'll never get a GF. Everyone in the school hates me it seems everytime I walk by someone they make fun of me. I try to talk with girls of all kind but even the not so looking girls shut me down. I cant make friends. I wish I was a differnt person. Anyone have advice on how to get a GF

Ok, i'll try not to be harsh.

1. Get some self-confidence.
2. Try not to be so desperate, the moment you start looking for a GF, people of your age group will be turned off, hide your desire.
3. Stop thinking your so different, I went through the same phase as you and alot of people do.
4. Drop the hat.
5. Smile and say hi to people whom you know.
6. Get some guy friends first before looking for a GF.
7. Being angst won't get you anywhere.
8. Personality comes before looks.
9. Girls like fun loving guys, so relax more and have fun.

Personally im about the same age as you, and I have said stuff college relationships due to some painful experiences, being in a relationship is not all it is cracked up to be, yea its great while you are at it, but the pain of break-ups is incredible. You may think you are in a bad situation now, but it can be amplified through relationships.

If I was you I would concentrate on building friendships with guys and girls, and save relationships for later, you will find it better in the long run, and if you learn how to communicate with people better then it will help you get a GF later.

[Lloyd95]

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Originally Posted by Stevo

I'll never get a GF.

That's 'cause you're ugly dude!

ah, Just kidding. You look like any other teenager.

I echo what someone else said; work on making friends first, probably with guys. Once you do that, everything else will fall into place.

Oh, and don't go looking for a girlfriend, that never works, at any age.

[TAVS]

Don't sweat it man. I had a similar experience in High school. Well, not many people made fun of me, but I wasn't the most popular kid and never went to one dance. Just be patient and wait until you graduate. You can get aware from all the pre-conceived notions of who you are and become whomever you want. My highschool experience may not have been all that, but in the 7 yrs since then, I've changed a great deal. You're growing up, nothing is in stone yet. Relax.

[Mishanya]

Hi Stevo

I second Bluesummer's post

1) The people that mock you are the losers
2) If someone doesn't like you, that's their problem
3) Do whatever it is you love to do, and enjoy it
4) Don't change yourself to impress people
5) Smiles and friendliness go a lot further than attitude or being anti social

I must say, self confidence and self esteem are very very important especially in your age group. It's very easy to get down on things, but at the end of the day that shouldn't affect your self perception. You should be able to look at that mirror and be proud of who you are. You should be able to say "I am so glad I am me and not someone else". This is where your journey begins. How do you achieve that? Start working towards becoming the person you really see your self as, start strengthening your self confidence and strenghtening your image. Start working on yourself. Doing physical work for example like going to the gym or cycling 5km per day will give you extra strength and energy. Developing a more positive outlook on life like laughing at yourself when others are laughing at you will help you win some friends and popularity. Everything goes hand in hand, once you are happy with the person you are, before you know it, you will have new friends and recieve that much anticipated attention from the opposite sex.

There was once a time back in High School when i felt the same way as you do. I wish I could go back in time and give myself this advice...

Hope above helps... Good Luck!!!

[TAVS]

Wow, that's some great advice Mishanya. Stevo - you'd be very wise to take that post to heart.

[Only-virgins]

Whocares? when it comes to advice. I think your just being to hard on yourself.

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Originally Posted by bluesummer

3) Do whatever it is you love to do, and enjoy it

4) Don't change yourself to impress people

5) Smiles and friendliness go a lot further than attitude or being anti social

These seem to contradict each other.