hmm..odd situation, think she is interested? - Page 2 - Love Forum

klip · #16 (**permalink**) 11-09-05, 03:50 AM

also so she notices that i dont want her there just as some study buddy, im interested in her as a friend and maybe in time something more

Ellynn · #17 (**permalink**) 11-09-05, 03:51 AM

I used to hate coffee too....until I found out they have cappaccino......and coffee with flavored creamers. They also have other drinks there as well that don't have coffee in them at all!

Lloyd95 · #18 (**permalink**) 11-09-05, 03:52 AM

Dude, how big is your ego? Can't someone just help you out without you thinking they're coming on to you? If a guy offered you his notes, would you automatically assume he's gay (not that there's anything wrong with that) and trying to pick you up.

If you're walking into a store and a girl is walking out and she holds the door open for a second so you can grab it, do you go telling your friends "Hey, this girl at a store was totally into me, she held the door and everything!"

klip · #19 (**permalink**) 11-09-05, 03:56 AM

damn guy relax im not saying she totally wants me, im just telling everyone what she is doing and seeing if anyone can infer her hints, if that same girl that held the door open for me keeps looking at me, offers me her number, then says she wants to hang out...i THINK thats something a little more thatn just some girl there....point is you need to relax man im not saying she totally wants me or anything im just saying she is dropping lots of hints, and this may lead to something.

shh! · #20 (**permalink**) 11-09-05, 04:05 AM

She may, in fact, totally want you. Time will tell.

Lloyd95 · #21 (**permalink**) 11-09-05, 04:05 AM

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Originally Posted by klip

damn guy relax im not saying she totally wants me, im just telling everyone what she is doing and seeing if anyone can infer her hints, if that same girl that held the door open for me keeps looking at me, offers me her number, then says she wants to hang out...i THINK thats something a little more thatn just some girl there....point is you need to relax man im not saying she totally wants me or anything im just saying she is dropping lots of hints, and this may lead to something.

I am relaxed. My middle name is Relaxed. I'm at the shore now as well.

all I'm saying is you missed class. You missed notes. You asked her if you missed anything. She said you missed some notes. She gave you the notes. She gave you her number in case you missed more notes. She seems very nice.

Ellynn · #22 (**permalink**) 11-09-05, 04:05 AM

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Originally Posted by klip

damn guy relax im not saying she totally wants me, im just telling everyone what she is doing and seeing if anyone can infer her hints, if that same girl that held the door open for me keeps looking at me, offers me her number, then says she wants to hang out...i THINK thats something a little more thatn just some girl there....point is you need to relax man im not saying she totally wants me or anything im just saying she is dropping lots of hints, and this may lead to something.

You do have a point. I mean I was helpful while I was in college....but I never extended it beyond being helpful while we were in class. If she gave you her number....wants to hang out with you/study outside of class...and already set up a place to study....then its worth looking into. Then by working together and then getting to know her.....you can find out if friends or possibly more is an option.

bluesummer · #23 (**permalink**) 12-09-05, 02:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Mishanya

OFCURSE she is interested. Let me tell you for a fact noone in their right mind would give their number out to a stranger just because they felt like being a little bit helpful. There is clearly some interest there that has to be explored.

Really? I did this in school a few times. I guess I must not be in my right mind then.

The main thing is here klip, that we see post after post after post on here from people asking "Do you think he/she likes me?" And the answer is: we really don't know. All you'd be getting from us is guesses. I hope for your sake she does, but until the day she actually says she's interested in you, no one's gonna know. So just go with it and see what happens.

BUT, as a side note, I thnk both guys and girls need to chill out.....people of the opposite sex CAN do nice things for you without being interested in THAT WAY.

Mishanya · #24 (**permalink**) 12-09-05, 01:43 PM

"Really? I did this in school a few times. I guess I must not be in my right mind then." By bluesummer

Oh Really??? (Evil Grin)

You gave out your mobile number to GUYS who happened to miss a class and who ONLY asked you for just a simple advice on what they missed? I mean seriously, to every guy??? (Regardless of their looks or personality or anything else that may have made the guy in some way appealing or interesting to you, just to be helpful). If yes, i think (even though it is EXTREMELY nice of you), there are many chances that your very enthusiastic help may have been misinterpretted.

Seriously though, you gave out your number just like that to just about anyone? Would you give out your number to a guy looking like this http://www.hollywoodjesus.com/movie/..._towers/12.jpg if he missed a class and just so happened to seat next to you?

Prodigal · #25 (**permalink**) 12-09-05, 03:37 PM

Mishanya, I'm a guy but I've given my number to female classmates many times without any intention or desire of becoming more than acquaintances or friends. I agree with Lloyd here. Just because somebody does this doesn't automatically mean that they're interested in you. However, she did look at you often... could show interest... it could also just be friendly inquiry too, though. It's really too early to tell, in my opinion.

In terms of being friendly to a classmate.. I'd give the person my number if I thought they were friendly too. If they seem like a responsible student, it's good to have a contact in a class.. and really, I don't see it as out of the ordinary.

Mishanya, of course you're more likely to give your number to someone attractive, but just because you give your number to somebody (a classmate) doesn't necessarily mean or even imply attraction on their part. As Blue also said, people DO do things out of pure kindness or friendliness.

Mishanya · #26 (**permalink**) 12-09-05, 05:21 PM

Hi Prodigal

"Mishanya, of course you're more likely to give your number to someone attractive"

Thank you for proving my point

I understand where you are coming from. Yes it's too early to tell. I am not advocating for Klip here to jump head over heals into it. I'm not telling him to propose to her, or to start coming up to this girl like this

saying "You know that i know that you know that i know" snapping his fingers and pointing at her...

I am just saying that the way she was acting shows to me that she is interested and that giving a number to sombedoy you don't know implies some sort of interest in the person (Maybe intelectual as you said, maybe attracted as you said, but some form of interest none the less). This form of interest can be taken to the NEXT level of becoming friends? (Or are you proposing that you wouldn't want to be friends with someone that you gave your mobile number to???) And once you become friends, who knows where things will go from there??? (You wouldn't know if you wouldn't try)

Ofcourse i understand that you wouldn't want to recieve anonymous phonecalls with some heavy breathing at the other end of the line, hearing words like "I know it... I know you want me!!!" from somebody that you gave your number to yestedray. I am talking about a "Reasonable" approach of following the interest thread to the "Friendship" level and then seeing where things will go on from there... Am i being too controvertial here???

I hope i am not confusing anyone

bball_1523 · #27 (**permalink**) 12-09-05, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Prodigal

Mishanya, I'm a guy but I've given my number to female classmates many times without any intention or desire of becoming more than acquaintances or friends. I agree with Lloyd here. Just because somebody does this doesn't automatically mean that they're interested in you. However, she did look at you often... could show interest... it could also just be friendly inquiry too, though. It's really too early to tell, in my opinion.

In terms of being friendly to a classmate.. I'd give the person my number if I thought they were friendly too. If they seem like a responsible student, it's good to have a contact in a class.. and really, I don't see it as out of the ordinary.

Mishanya, of course you're more likely to give your number to someone attractive, but just because you give your number to somebody (a classmate) doesn't necessarily mean or even imply attraction on their part. As Blue also said, people DO do things out of pure kindness or friendliness.

I think it depends on the views of our current generation. I think it makes sense that the girl likes him because in our generation, I do not know many people that would give out their number right when they meet the person in class, unless they were interested. There are "some" that would give it out because their personality says so, but I think our generation is used to giving out numbers because we are interested in the person, more than just friends.

In the end, I think it makes sense to give her a call and take it easy. If she throws out more hints, then it's obvious.

Lloyd95 · #28 (**permalink**) 12-09-05, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by bball_1523

I think it depends on the views of our current generation. I think it makes sense that the girl likes him because in our generation, I do not know many people that would give out their number right when they meet the person in class, unless they were interested. There are "some" that would give it out because their personality says so, but I think our generation is used to giving out numbers because we are interested in the person, more than just friends.

In the end, I think it makes sense to give her a call and take it easy. If she throws out more hints, then it's obvious.

I disagree.

tis younger generation CAN give out their numbers b/c it's only a cell phone. Cant' be traced. When I was younger, you had to give out your home number, which could be traced to where you live.

Some people are just generally more friendly and outgoing; doesn't mean she's interested. I mean it could but most times not.

Tone · #29 (**permalink**) 12-09-05, 10:23 PM

I think she's interested in you... you should be lucky to meet a girl so forward! Not only the way she acted in class and giving you her phone number, but also suggesting you guys get together outside of class makes me think she's an awesome girl that is going for what she wants!

I mean it's very possible she just is interested in wanting to make new friends too, but at any rate you're playing it cool and gonna find out to let us all know! Good luck dude, keep us posted.

klip · #30 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 03:54 AM

Wow i thought this topic would have died out, nice to see some fellow interest...well umm today she wasnt in class so it kinda sucked but then it hit me, i can use this as a pretty good excuse to meet her later today in person at B&N. I called her and she picked up, we shared a few laughs on how she overslept and then told her about the notes that we took today for friday's quiz, i told her that i cant talk on the phone as i had some things to take care of, but she can copy the notes later at B&N if she would like to meet up, she liked the idea and said yeah.

A bit later i talk to her again to tell her what time and she said she needed to go to work to take care of some paperwork so she's gonna call me when she gets out then we head to B&N, she also told me where she lived and we live like 10 mins from each other so were both close to B&N.

kinda sucks cuz i forgot to ask her what time she gets out and i dont want to call her during work, as not to distrub her so il just wait, and if i get TO impatient il call but im pre-occupied atm anyway.

il let u all know what happens...well when it happens