hmm..odd situation, think she is interested? - Page 3 - Love Forum

Late_vamp · #31 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 04:13 AM

everything seems to be going good for you . glad someone over here is making some progress or is happy .

bluesummer · #32 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Mishanya

[You gave out your mobile number to GUYS who happened to miss a class and who ONLY asked you for just a simple advice on what they missed? I mean seriously, to every guy??? (Regardless of their looks or personality or anything else that may have made the guy in some way appealing or interesting to you, just to be helpful). If yes, i think (even though it is EXTREMELY nice of you), there are many chances that your very enthusiastic help may have been misinterpretted.

Seriously though, you gave out your number just like that to just about anyone? Would you give out your number to a guy looking like this http://www.hollywoodjesus.com/movie/..._towers/12.jpg if he missed a class and just so happened to seat next to you?

What? Of course I didn't just give my number out to guys only, and certainly not to every single one that missed a class, or even only attractive ones. Where did I imply that? I've done it from time to time in classes with the people sitting in my general area of the classroom.

The way I see it, if I offer some dorky looking guy my notes, and he wants to read into it, that's his problem. Plenty of people have helped me out in he past, so I just like to 'pay it forward' if you will.

bball_1523 · #33 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Lloyd95

I disagree.

tis younger generation CAN give out their numbers b/c it's only a cell phone. Cant' be traced. When I was younger, you had to give out your home number, which could be traced to where you live.

Some people are just generally more friendly and outgoing; doesn't mean she's interested. I mean it could but most times not.

I still don't agree, but it's obvious that everyone has a different view on this issue. And it's a fact that where you live makes a difference on your views as well. Here in california, giving out numbers between guys/girls that early, often signifies that the person is interested.

I personally think times change and you mentioned "when I was younger." Are you in college? I just think in my age (college age) people are interested if they give out numbers. Not always, but majority of the time yes.

But yeah to the threadstarter, just keep talking to her, forget this business of whether she's interested in you or not, just go with the flow and you'll find out sooner or later.

klip · #34 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:37 AM

ok update time guys ( geez this is turning into a mini-series lol )

ok so original plan was to meet at B&N, so she calls me when she gets out of work and says that she is on her way to her aunts house to do some excersice, but she asks if she could stop by my house to copy the notes, or if i wanted, to postpone the B&N trip to tomorow, of course i wanted to see her so i said screw it to the bookstore and said yeah sure come over, so gave her my address and 10 mins later she was here

she pulls up to the driveway and i get inside her car ( no point in going in the house this wont take to long, plus i didnt want to delay her to much ) FIRST thing she does is compliment me on how nice i smelled ( some cologne i put on b4 hand ) and i thanked and told her the name, as she had asked. a few smiles where passed here and there, and finally the mystery of age was revealed, she is 22, no big deal..just 3 years apart

we joke around allot about college and stuff as she takes the notes and she compliments me on my hair which she said looks really good and a few more smiles here and there.

After a few more mins i decide to be a gentleman about it and tell her that i dont want to keep her waiting as she needs to go to her aunt's place.

Also to be sure she likes talking to me, i snuck in some comments on how i apologize if my calls got annoying during the day, just 2 calls but hey w/e works!. she said no way, that she enjoyed talking to me and after we said our goodbyes she asked me to call her later so we can talk some more, i said of course.

and well thats that, she is picking up her niece from dance now so she said she will call me when she gets home

sadly this doesnt confirm anything on wheather she likes me or just sees me as a good friend, etc, etc but it went well

and tonight when i speak with her i will bring up ( casually ) about her dating status to see if she is taken or single...lol if she is taken u can pretty much close this novela right here!

nah i joke, il still stay her friend she is awesome..

Stay tuned!

bluesummer · #35 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:41 AM

Sounds like you've made a friend at least....let's see where it goes! Keep us posted!

bball_1523 · #36 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by klip

ok update time guys ( geez this is turning into a mini-series lol )

ok so original plan was to meet at B&N, so she calls me when she gets out of work and says that she is on her way to her aunts house to do some excersice, but she asks if she could stop by my house to copy the notes, or if i wanted, to postpone the B&N trip to tomorow, of course i wanted to see her so i said screw it to the bookstore and said yeah sure come over, so gave her my address and 10 mins later she was here

she pulls up to the driveway and i get inside her car ( no point in going in the house this wont take to long, plus i didnt want to delay her to much ) FIRST thing she does is compliment me on how nice i smelled ( some cologne i put on b4 hand ) and i thanked and told her the name, as she had asked. a few smiles where passed here and there, and finally the mystery of age was revealed, she is 22, no big deal..just 3 years apart

we joke around allot about college and stuff as she takes the notes and she compliments me on my hair which she said looks really good and a few more smiles here and there.

After a few more mins i decide to be a gentleman about it and tell her that i dont want to keep her waiting as she needs to go to her aunt's place.

Also to be sure she likes talking to me, i snuck in some comments on how i apologize if my calls got annoying during the day, just 2 calls but hey w/e works!. she said no way, that she enjoyed talking to me and after we said our goodbyes she asked me to call her later so we can talk some more, i said of course.

and well thats that, she is picking up her niece from dance now so she said she will call me when she gets home

sadly this doesnt confirm anything on wheather she likes me or just sees me as a good friend, etc, etc but it went well

and tonight when i speak with her i will bring up ( casually ) about her dating status to see if she is taken or single...lol if she is taken u can pretty much close this novela right here!

nah i joke, il still stay her friend she is awesome..

Stay tuned!

HOLY COW DUDE.

Compliments? Smiles? Call more?

I won't say it's a fact, but I think she likes you! But man I wish this could happen to me

klip · #37 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:51 AM

to be honest, bball, it can i mean..i know im not to good with like "theories" on love and things like that, but i do believe in that " the best way to find a girl is to NOT look for one" then it just sort of happens....this is the way its always been for me at least, everytime i really wanted a girl i would either A) just not find one or B) find one that ended up being REALLY bad for me...and then this new girl is just another case, i had no intention of meeting her, just needed some notes and now i made a new friend, and maybe even something more

so just relax and be yourself and in time it will happen ( yes its allot harder said than done, but trust me it will happen to you )

bball_1523 · #38 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by klip

to be honest, bball, it can i mean..i know im not to good with like "theories" on love and things like that, but i do believe in that " the best way to find a girl is to NOT look for one" then it just sort of happens....this is the way its always been for me at least, everytime i really wanted a girl i would either A) just not find one or B) find one that ended up being REALLY bad for me...and then this new girl is just another case, i had no intention of meeting her, just needed some notes and now i made a new friend, and maybe even something more

so just relax and be yourself and in time it will happen ( yes its allot harder said than done, but trust me it will happen to you )

haha, well it's great to hear about your story, it kinda makes me have hope.

anyways, I don't really believe in any theories on love, I just believe it happens when it is meant to happen. (unless you call that a theory, lol)

klip · #39 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 10:55 AM

yeah thats wat i believe to, it just happens.

Mishanya · #40 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 11:08 AM

Hi bluesummer

"What? Of course I didn't just give my number out to guys only, and certainly not to every single one that missed a class, or even only attractive ones."

AHA. So you do confirm that you are very SELECTIVE with people to whom you entrust your mobile number! (People who might appear of certain interest or appeal in some way even if on intellectual level?) Very true, why would anyone give their number to just about anybody? (Especially to someone who looks like they might eat your entire family - my link)

So basically, you give out your number with friendly intentions. To stay in touch, catch up on some studies from now and then that type of thing, be friends so to speak, right? Funny thing about being friends (As opposed to being strangers) with somebody is that, you never know what can happen between two people when they spend time with each other (Especially when there are certain interests and common interests in play). Sometimes the more time you spend with the person the more you get repulsed by that person and the more you just want to get away. Sometimes the more time you spend with the person the more you start to find that person interesting and in some ways attractive. I am discussing the scenario of strangers to friends to possibly something else development here (No rushing, no going past the telling signs).

It is quite possible for Klip to get disenchanted with this girl once they both start seeing each other as friends and he himself may not want to pursue this any further.

"The way I see it, if I offer some dorky looking guy my notes, and he wants to read into it, that's his problem." by bluesummer

So what, if the dorky looking guy did some work on himself and asked you to catch up on some studies outside of study hours and turned up looking like this http://movies.yahoo.com/shop?d=hc&id...520370&intl=us and you just happened to be single at the time, are you saying you would be completely cold and uninterested? (And tell him things like "Look, just so both of us are on the same level, there is no chance in hell a guy like you could ever BE with me"). Getting back to the original Klip's question "Think she is interested?", no one is proposing jumping head over heals here, but to acknowledge that there is SOME form of interest here (From both parties) and that this interest should be explored to find out if this can be taken further.

I think i may have over generalized when i said "Noone in their right mind would give out their number just to be a little bit helpful". But, in doing so you do impower the other partys to A. Develop relationship outside of colledge with you, using joint study as the reason B. Become friends with you. C. Once friends, try to seduce you in a very laid back/friendly manner (And if that fails, take steps back). Should they or shouldn't they be doing that, thats a whole different question that will vary greatly between individual preferences.

Okay it's probably too late now, but i should warn you I am a terrible person to argue with. My stuborness knows no boundary and has no equal (It probably won't surprise anybody that i'm a Taurus), so i would like to apologise in advance

Tone · #41 (**permalink**) 13-09-05, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by bball_1523

haha, well it's great to hear about your story, it kinda makes me have hope.

Seconded!

Sounds awesome dude, don't take this situation for granted ;)

klip · #42 (**permalink**) 14-09-05, 01:03 AM

well nothing to new, a few more calls here and there were talkin some more, etc,etc hmm i think im gonna just stay friends with her though, we do have allot in common and have very similair sense of humor, but she has allot on her plate, besides college she also has work everyday ( and im starting work myself soon ) and she tutors her niece and works out with her aunt like every day, the only times she has for fun is either late at night ( which is fine but i gotta wake up early for college ) and on weekends, so as a g/f i probably wouldnt be able to spend to much time with her, so i think il just keep it to close friends...but il post if anything

Tone · #43 (**permalink**) 14-09-05, 01:35 AM

Just go with the flow and keep an open mind, never know what might happen.

(:

Asip4u · #44 (**permalink**) 14-09-05, 01:44 AM

I just hope you don't end up being dissappointed later on if you come too late and her expectations were somewhat different. If you truly want to be just friends with her (which i doubt) that's fine, however don't get all freaked out if she finds a b/f and brings him over to hang out with you guys. Some guys will only act that they're ok with it, in reality if some other guy was interested in her, you'd feel a lot different.

bball_1523 · #45 (**permalink**) 14-09-05, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by klip

well nothing to new, a few more calls here and there were talkin some more, etc,etc hmm i think im gonna just stay friends with her though, we do have allot in common and have very similair sense of humor, but she has allot on her plate, besides college she also has work everyday ( and im starting work myself soon ) and she tutors her niece and works out with her aunt like every day, the only times she has for fun is either late at night ( which is fine but i gotta wake up early for college ) and on weekends, so as a g/f i probably wouldnt be able to spend to much time with her, so i think il just keep it to close friends...but il post if anything

no way man!!! you have to at least give her a chance. I personally don't see time as an issue when it comes to having a girlfriend, at least for me I would be thankful if I even had a girlfriend!