A Little Shy With Girls - Love Forum

Rico_Suave · #1 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 03:30 PM

There's this girl at school that I like. She is in my spanish class but I am too shy and don't know how to talk to her. Not that it matters at all but I am not exactly good looking and more then a little over weight. I just don't know if she would be interested in meand if it would be worth it. Keep in mind that I am only a junior in high school and she is only a sophmore. Please, any advive!?!

Ellynn · #2 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 06:32 PM

Ok, well hate to break this to you....but eventually you are gonna have to talk to her in order to get to know her. If you don't.its just gonna be a meaningless crush where you pine away for her and nothing ever happens. Then you will always wonder....and yes it will drive you crazy from time to time.

Just keep this in mind.....she is a normal human being. She makes mistakes....shes not perfect...shes just like anyone else.

If anything just try smiling at her.....or say hi. Say or do something small but enough to get her to notice you. Then maybe comment on something in the class and go from there. Making small talk will help. Then hopefully you will both get a conversation going and go from there.... Get to know her as a friend.... I think that will help take some of the pressure off of liking her. Then if you guys develop a friendship...then try making a move. Just don't wait too long after getting to know her.

If she turns out to be a b*tch, then at least you know shes not worth your time....and you can say you tried.

Airborne · #3 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Rico_Suave

There's this girl at school that I like. She is in my spanish class but I am too shy and don't know how to talk to her. Not that it matters at all but I am not exactly good looking and more then a little over weight. I just don't know if she would be interested in mean if it would be worth it. Keep in mind that I am only a junior in high school and she is only a sophmore. Please, any advive!?!

Well i'll go into the biological reasons why your nervous, it is the tesosterone, if you can control that, then you should be able to talk to her no problem.

Alternately seeing as this is near on impossible, just bite the bullet, it is always easier this way, and once you get started then you should be fine. remember be confident, and plan your conversation before hand so you can avoid awkward silences. If awkard silences do occur just say something like "Ohh awkward silence..um. Hows your day been?" Try not to be to complimental, though don't insult her either, tease her a bit. Do not let her know that you have a crush on her yet either!

Good luck!

Lloyd95 · #4 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 09:51 PM

I find it funny that your name is Rico suave and your shy with a girl in your Spanish class.

Anyone see anything wrong here?

TAVS · #5 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 10:59 PM

Yea, I doo.... I have a Rico Suave cassette at home

Rico_Suave · #6 (**permalink**) 08-09-05, 12:00 PM

Yeah it is funny. Thats good advice thanks. Does it help my chances that she is shy too? Any more advice?

smokeyrockett · #7 (**permalink**) 08-09-05, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Rico_Suave

Yeah it is funny. Thats good advice thanks. Does it help my chances that she is shy too? Any more advice?

Yes, that does help!!! For all you know, she may feel the same way about you, but is scared to do anything about it! All you should do is just talk to her....... Once you start talking, and get over the shyness, anything could happen!! Be BRAVE, SMILE, and most imporntant RELAX!!

GOOD LUCK

Charles Rockett

Life is too short not to have fun!

Prodigal · #8 (**permalink**) 08-09-05, 05:12 PM

Ellynn never fails to give insightful advice. I don't really have all that much to add... one thing I will say, though. I know it seems really hard to approach a girl, especially one that you like. But once that first conversation is over, it gets much easier. Just try not to think about it much... and try not to look too far ahead. Just look to get to know her, and start to get a feeling of how she feels about you... from there, take action according to how you think the connection is.

Only-virgins · #9 (**permalink**) 09-09-05, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellynn

Ok, well hate to break this to you....but eventually you are gonna have to talk to her in order to get to know her.

Unless she talks to him.

Ellynn · #10 (**permalink**) 09-09-05, 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins

Unless she talks to him.

True.....but he could be waiting for a long time on that one.....

Why not initiate the first step?

Only-virgins · #11 (**permalink**) 09-09-05, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellynn

True.....but he could be waiting for a long time on that one.....

Why not initiate the first step?

Same goes to her.

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sevink · #12 (**permalink**) 09-09-05, 04:58 PM

heres a good story. DONT WAIT TO LONG. My gf had a cursh on me. After she gave up i had a crush on her. And right when i was bout to talk to her, I learned she had a "bf" i say that because he never talked to her and is a complete gay in denial and will never admit it. They never held hands or kissed in a 5 month dating...*YIKES* but yeah just make sure you talk to her before somone else does. If you are taking a fancy you better bet theres atleast 1 other person who likes her too. Whats the worst that can happen rejection? If that happens youll be back where you started so no worries! Also dont let your weight be a factor in being shy. You'd be surprised at how girls will ignore looks over personality...trust me i've seen it in people at my old school! GOOD LUCK!

Ellynn · #13 (**permalink**) 09-09-05, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins

Same goes to her.

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Alright OV, ........why don't you tell her that then?

I mean yeah he could wait for her to make the first move....but then again he could be waiting forever and completely miss his chance.

I mean yeah he could take that advice and wait around....but more then likely hes gonna end up pining way for her and then nothing will ever come of it.

At least he can TRY

Only-virgins · #14 (**permalink**) 09-09-05, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellynn

Alright OV, ........why don't you tell her that then?

I mean yeah he could wait for her to make the first move....but then again he could be waiting forever and completely miss his chance.

I mean yeah he could take that advice and wait around....but more then likely hes gonna end up pining way for her and then nothing will ever come of it.

At least he can TRY

Im not telling anyone anything. She could be waiting forever and completely miss her chance. Im not giving advice...im just saying. At least SHE can TRY.

Ellynn · #15 (**permalink**) 09-09-05, 05:09 PM

Yes, its true. I believe a girl should try just as much as a guy should. But honestly this girl might like him but might be just as shy and might not ever say anything. If no one makes a move....then nothing happens! So thats why IM encouraging him(because hes the one here, not her) to talk to her.

This girl might not even notice him....and maybe by talking..she might notice him more and eventually make a move herself. But someones gotta make that first move. IF she were on this board...I would be telling her the same thing (to talk to him).