This is going to be long winded so please bare with me. Me (23) and my now ex boyfriend (30) havenít been right for a while. Recently we didnít talk or see eachother for a whole week, I needed space from his negativity all the time, he didnít speak to me at all. ( that is explained in my other post) I contacted him and we saw eachother I went round there he was so happy to see me and told me how much he missed me and had his best friend back. Anyway everything was fine. He stayed at mine Sunday night, I went to work in the morning and on returning home I found tissues in the bin with semen on ( he masturbated) , yes not very nice but I did leave him frustrated in the morning, however it didnít bother me at all. I went round and made a comment laughing about it saying id found them and he completely denied it whilst smiling, said it must of been my brother ( I live at home, plus my brother had been at work ) not expecting him to deny it I was shocked, he was so adamant to lie to me, looked me in the eye and swore on it, and then went on to say you donít trust people do you ( he likes to spin things back on me ) I couldnít believe he could lie so easily about something like that. Anyways naturally I was off with him not knowing quite how to feel. He is also moving back home to his parents 3 hours away as he has been living at his sisters for 7 months who is my best friend. ( he told me this when we got back in contact again after the week ) He doesnít get on with her boyfriend who has just moved in. He said until he sorted something out I could go down to see him and he could come down 1 week out of a month and work down here (hes not in permanent work he just knows someone who gives him work as and when). Anyways after I discovered he was lying to me he went on to say how he was thinking of buying a camper van when he gets his claim money from an accident and living in it. (I thought what about us? He spoke about us moving in not even a month ago) We went to bed and I wasnít affectionate I couldnít help it, I was angry that he had lied and angry that he was leaving and spoke about the future that seemed to not have me included) he asked Ď are you ok sweetieíí I said yes and he said good night babe. I woke up got ready for work and Said I was feeling sad Ė he said why and I said I feel like youíve lied to me and he got his defense up and started being arsy. I kissed him on the head and went to leave, We had a brief bicker and I said when your out of your mood and your ready to talk ill be waiting and left I didnít slam doors I just left. He text me whilst I was at work saying unless you give me an apology for being rude were not going to talk, you can drop the attitude cause Iím not putting up with that bollocks. I just said if I donít belive you about something thatís not your problem, I let it go I just wanted to leave and he was going on saying how rude I am and thank god we donít llive together ( he can be real nasty when hes annoyed) I honestly felt like I hadnít done anything wrong in my eyes. He was saying if I donít say sorry its over and I said Iím sick of you threatening to end it all the time ( hes done it a few times when weve fell out and he doesnít get his own way Ė me apologizing for offending him with my rudeness Ė he thinks hes right all the time and no one can say or do anything to him)
Anyway he was calling me selfish, rude, inconsiderate and a self righteous bitch Ė I feel Iím none of these things if anything these are all the things he is. I said get off your high horse and he said do you thinkthat was wise? Its over Iím done. Removed his relationsip status to single immediately and blocked me on facebook. Messages went back and forth, he said some things like I really donít like you any more your rude, were you not loved as a child so you donít know how to love and care for someone? I have no interest in us anymore. I said how can all your feelings go so quickly and he said Easy when I see that side of you again ( me being rude apparently) I said sorry for not saying bye properly and he said no I donít want an apology for that, you were rude how you left. He tried to call me on WhatsApp 3 times and I didnít answer as I was too upset, he said I donít want to have to talk to anyone to this extent on text its draining, but we have to because we donít get on and its boring ive had enough, Iím beginning to hate us, I said what did you want to say on the phone, he said its easier than on here. He rang again but I missed it and he blocked me. I text him loads I turned up at his sisters where hes living and he wouldnít come out or even acknowledge me, just plain ignored me. I said to his sister he doesnít care does he and she said I donít think he does sorry to say. How can he just act so cold and block me off everything like I meant nothing to him, why was he trying to ring me and then just blocked me? I feel so low and like he never cared about me. I sent him an email last night saying your not the person I thought you were how can you dump someone you supposedly love by text and ignore them, but that I loved him and wished the best for him and one day hell realise Iím not as bad as he says I am, he just forgot all the good things about me. but nothing.
(I listen to all his problems I give him advice I lend him money when he cant afford to eat and he just forgets all that. He said before he will never find a girl like me, and now he just seems like he doesnít care at all. At Christmas he got me a massive card and wrote how he hopes we have many Christmases together and the great thing that life had given him this year (me) and how much he loved me - and now he suddenly hates me and has no feelings it makes no sense.