Then let us be honest!!! Let him tell her husband that he wants to sleep with his wife. Maybe he will be understanding and pay for the hotel room as well. There is so much honesty in a relationship. This may be a fling and nothing more. Let it happen and let it go. One day it will be gone. No one needs to know.

This is a childish, emotional response not worthy of a thinking adult who cares about the feelings of others. Marriage is a commitment, at minimum to respect the feelings of your partner. Once you take the vows, its no longer just about you. If you can't keep the vows, fine, but be upfront about it. Again, anything else is just selfish and cowardly.

1. "let him tell her husband" Sure. And so he/she should. Maybe the husband will wake up to the fact that there is a problem... or maybe he'll pay for the room (but I doubt it).
2. A good relationship DOES contain honesty, even if painful. This is life.
3. "this may be a fling and nothing more". So why bother? If its just about sex, this can be got easily & cheaply and not at the expense of someone's marriage.

Don't be so rational. If you want to be a Monday morning quarterback then play football instead. Why don't you write a textbook on the subject instead of worthless advice.

See my response above

Perhaps I have. You never know... Anyway, I'm sorry you are so defensive on this subject. But the fact is, you fail to provide ANY kind of argument, emotional or rational, as to why what YOU are saying is valid. You neither support or refute my statements with input of your own. At least I have attempted a possible solution to the problem, you provide nothing but criticism of another's ideas w/o adding anything. Such is trivial and, in contrast to my statements, truly worthless. But I believe I've said enough on this thread. There is enough here for those who actually wish to use their brains and think about their situation.

Rajaat -- are you like me and always picking the greatest challenge? *said with a chuckle* -- I recently went through the same experience with a friend of 15 years who was struggling in her marriage. I had always been her lended ear and one night we discussed how we felt about each other. But, I urged her to forget about me and do everything she could to work out her marriage. In fact, in order to stay out of her hair, I ended up creating my own creative outlet at http://www.lovevirtual.com... which, by the way, she's not yet found even though she seems to be working through things with her husband. Truthfully, the site has generated contact with several other interesting ladies... so, it has been worth the experience! Check it out... us hopeless romantics can always help each other out!

Wow. that was a virtual Tah Majal. i'm sure she already knows you love her... I couldn't help but wonder tho, why all the drama? you're waiting for her to find this like some kind of cosmic test... if you really believe you are meant to be together, go & get her. sometimes, one partner is stronger than the other in certain things (and the other in other things). if I were you, i wouldn't waste another single second... life is too short as it is.