What should you do if you may suffer a nervous breakdown tomorrow? - Love Forum

Macky · #1 (**permalink**) 07-03-08, 08:01 AM

What should I do if I may potentially suffer from a nervous breakdown tomorrow?

My girlfriend has some severe financial problem. I have been scrambling for money for the past 2 weeks. it has taken a toll on me, mentally, emotionally and physically. I cannot sleep well, eat well and do my daily work well...

My only hope hinges on someone who says she is willing to help but must evaluate her financial situation 1st before lending. And if the answer for tomorrow is that she cannot help, I think i may snap.

Why i may snap? Because it could mean that my girlfriend will do stupid and silly things which is too unimaginable for me to write down. I know she is scared but she acted brave and strong in front of me. She told me it is alright. After the whole incident, we can still be together. But i am just afraid i cannot make it through...

She felt so sad to see and hear me cry every time when i try very hard to help her but to no avail. She needs help urgently but she doesn't want to see me suffer. She would rather suffer herself... But as her boyfriend, I love her so much, i don't want her to suffer anymore (her past is a very sad and tragic story too). I definitely have the moral obligation to help, but so many people thought i was naive. They are not in my shoes, how do they know how we felt for each other? The happy times we were together and the sad times we went through with each other...

So, what should I do to save my sanity and save her life? I can tell you I have tried almost every single possible options I possibly can without breaking the law. Counseling should be of no use when you know she is going to suffer through the process to solve her problem no matter what.

Frasbee · #2 (**permalink**) 07-03-08, 08:03 AM

Why does she need this money?

IndiReloaded · #3 (**permalink**) 07-03-08, 08:04 AM

Err... okay on the chance this is for real:

Some ppl need to hit bottom before they learn the hard lessons they need to.

Money is one of those things that, if you are willing to work hard, there is always more to be found. Its not the end of the world.

Tell her that. Good luck.

Frasbee · #4 (**permalink**) 07-03-08, 08:07 AM

I feel like rock bottom for me is pulling the trigger...

I went through some SHIT in 2007 and suicide only crossed my mind a few times, but no action was ever taken towards that end.

So I have renewed confidence in my ability to deal.

Macky · #5 (**permalink**) 07-03-08, 08:45 AM

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Some ppl need to hit bottom before they learn the hard lessons they need to.

Money is one of those things that, if you are willing to work hard, there is always more to be found. Its not the end of the world.

Tell her that. Good luck.

Yes i know that. but what she is going to do may put her at great risk. She is already willing to take such a big risk that can be detrimental to her when she looks back at her life. I must help no matter what as now it not only concerns her life, it concerns my life too.

I am sure people will want someone to help them when they realise they have made a mistake and is truly repentant. And besides, I am someone special to her and she is definitely someone I hold so close to my heart...

IndiReloaded · #6 (**permalink**) 07-03-08, 08:51 AM

What can you do acutely about your situation? Hard to say w/o knowing the details, which you seem reluctant to share. Seems to me that getting away from whatever is threatening you two might be a good idea.

Whatever your situation I hope it turns out for the best.

vashti · #7 (**permalink**) 07-03-08, 09:18 AM

Maybe she can take on a second job. I did that (back in my poor days).

Macky · #8 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 03:57 AM

That someone did not let me lend me the money. Citing reason for my irrationality trying to help my girlfriend.

I thought i am going to have a nervous breakdown...

but the worst part has yet to come. it will come in a few weeks' time when my girlfriend will have to suffer the consequences of not getting the money.

And when she is going through this tough period of time, i may snap eventually. I felt so useless. How come i am not able to protect my girlfriend from harm, from potential risks, from doing something she is forced to do?

I think i may end up in a mental institute. I am not sure about that. I don't know how would our relationship become after the whole incident, after her suffering.

I know no matter what, I will still love her as much as i do now, if not, even deeper. This will be like an emotional scar for me for the rest of my life, i don't know about her.

I really hope i can keep my sanity.

By the way, huge sum of money is required immediately, that is why holding 2 jobs now is useless, or working extremely hard is useless too, can't accumulate such a great amt of money in a short time.

Anyone who reads this post, please just pray for me, this young man who is experiencing something his age should not experience, dealing with problems his age should not. For he did everything just for a simple reason - he loves her too much. he doesn't care if she reciprocates, he wants her to be safe, feel loved, have something to look forward to, have a shoulder she can lean on.

Please do not think that i am weak because i cry in the telephone. because i am really concern about you. i know you hate to see me sad, i know you really hate me when i cry, you don't like cry boys. But do you understand you are the reason for all these tear drops? You want me to be strong, but how many guys can actually be strong when they are in my situation? If a guy in my predicament does not shed a tear at all, he is not truly in love with you.

I think i am so useless. i gave you empty promises. i am sorry about that. how many times in this relationship have i said sorry? countless times. you always say "never mind". But i mind a lot! Why sometimes you want to close yourself away from me? I know you don't like to talk about your problems, it is your style of crisis management. I want you to know, even if i cannot help you financially, i can still give you emotional support, but it always seem like you do not really need any emotional support. I know you are a very strong women, and i am a very weak guy. But please, if you are just acting brave, let me know. i don't want you to hide everything inside, carry all the burden by yourself.

Let me into your heart completely after the whole thing is over. I hope you are touched by all the minute things i have done for you. i hope my efforts to help you is being appreciated, even though in the end, i can't get much money.

I know your mindset and mentality is a lot different from mine. But i still want to love you, i know innately, you have a beautiful soul.

i am just a guy, standing in front of you, asking you to love me. I can do anything for you, as long as you believe in me.

It is going to be hell for both of us in the coming weeks. I may snap and you may suffer life-long complications. Why do things have to turn out this way, why does every moment have to be so hard?

I will use time to prove to you i am not like the other guys. i know i may be naive to be thinking like that but what else can a man who is willing to devote a huge part of his life to you?

Frasbee · #9 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 04:44 AM

I don't think this girl is worth it.

vashti · #10 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 09:00 AM

I hope she is less dramatic than you are; it would be awfully hard to maintain stability with all these emotions running amok.

What did she do to get herself into such a large amount of debt? Perhaps she needs to face a harsh reality in order to grow.

Macky · #11 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 11:28 AM

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I don't think this girl is worth it.

I beg to differ. I don't consider if a person is worthy of my love when i really love the person. What makes me think my love is something worth a lot?

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I hope she is less dramatic than you are; it would be awfully hard to maintain stability with all these emotions running amok.

What did she do to get herself into such a large amount of debt? Perhaps she needs to face a harsh reality in order to grow.

She is definitely one of the bravest, strongest woman i have ever met. She is going to face all these alone. She told me not to be sad, she told me not to cry for her. It makes her sad and angry when she knows i cry. But as a boyfriend, why would you want to let your girlfriend face all these by herself? The only thing I can do is to give emotional support, but apparently she doesn't need any at all. I just felt useless... She told me it is alright, but i just cannot get past myself, knowing that your girlfriend will suffer all on her own.

miSSleepy · #12 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 11:35 AM

is she getting her fingers cut off by a drug lord or something?

anyway, if you need the money immediately, take out a loan. We have places here that will give you up to 10, 000 on the spot, I'm sure you can find such places too.

Illusional · #13 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 01:44 PM

hrmm.... i smoney really that much of a problem?? first off, i'm sure that this girl has a job. so where does all her money go in the first place?? why not start at the root of the problem.

raverboy

Frasbee · #14 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 03:27 PM

There's nothing you've presented to suggest she's worth anything at all.

There's nothing you've presented to suggest that all this whining you've been doing has been worth anything either.

Macky · #15 (**permalink**) 09-03-08, 03:48 PM

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There's nothing you've presented to suggest she's worth anything at all.

There's nothing you've presented to suggest that all this whining you've been doing has been worth anything either.

Well, i cannot agree with your 1st statement, but i agree with your 2nd one.

I know all these whining means nothing at all. it is just an outlet to pour out my sorrows. please pardon me.

Now i have realised that people in crisis really need help, even if it means talking sense to them for days without them becoming better or happier. It is the process of talking to them that is more important than forcing them to be happy. They just need someone there to listen to them.

If my friends are in despair now, i will not get frustrated talking sense to them for days without making them feeling better. i have experienced this crisis and i know very clear how it feels like to be so depressed. you just need someone to talk to.

i hope you people understand what i say.