Hey vashti, misombra, lilwing, and co. (where is Tone!)... Lloyd, TAVS, and everyone else?


Here's an update on the situation. I think I may be a bad person.

This song kind of sums it up...




I have been jealous of my friend (, who gets a lot of chicks, (a bit of a ladies man, which i'm not at all)

He tells me about his 'conquests'... and i feel jealous.

so, i purposely made him feel the same way, by telling him that he is in a bad situation with exams (which he is)... and kind of put it in his face in a not so nice way... i could see he got stressed, but i kept on grilling him, and he looked as if he was about to cry. i left him for a bit, only to return and further rub it into his face, i told him i'm doing ok in school (which i kind of am now)

I kind of feel like an ass. What should i do? this guy is probably my best friend, one of the few, probably only!!

aw rk. see, everybody has their problems. your best bet is to try to make him feel better about his school situation and maybe help him out a little.

getting a lot of girls isn't always a good thing. we come with a bunch of other problems too.

maybe you could tell him that since too much of his focus is going into girls, his school work is taking the hit.

and you could possibly admit your jealousy. he's probably jealous that you do so well in school, or envious of some other thing you have that he lacks.

could he write a poem like you do? um, probably not.

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a wise man isn't always saved by his wisdom. just like a stupid man does not always do stupid things.

Apologize. These are the kinds of moments that can bind people closer if they are handled correctly. I have never NOT felt better after apologizing for my own bad behavior. Just tell him you thought about it and realize this is the way you manifested your envy of his success with women, and that you feel bad for it. I bet he has issues you aren't aware of that makes him envious of you, too.

BTW - I can't imagine why you aren't having successes of your own. I've seen how beautiful you are, and you are obviously bright. You must be allowing shyness to decide your fate. You might want to work on that, my darling.

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That's not a cool thing to do to your friend. Of course if he's getting a lot of ass he'll want to tell his friend about it. He's not doing it in a way to rub it in your face and make you feel like crap, is he? Although I know when other people talk about all the ass they get I feel inadequate in comparison, even if this was not their intention (sometimes it is though). But you were trying to make this guy feel bad

What you can do is tell him you're sorry for being a dick and sometime later tell him you don't like hearing about all his "conquests" all the time because it's not something you can share in. It makes for a really lop-sided discussion, I know because when I was home over winter break I heard a lot of these fairytale stories but couldn't contribute

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Hazard to Others

Jealousy is a salt of human nature. If you learn to control it, your life will be much better. These are things you already know, RSK, I'm sure you can figure it out!

Apologize, and explain to him that the cause of your actions has been jealousy. Then take time to figure out what it takes to include such luxuries in your own life, rather than wasting it being jealous!

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If you stare at a white pixel long enough, you notice the throbbing red, green, and blue elements that create it.

If you stare at a fuzzy blanket long enough with your eye so close it goes out of focus, just look at the sparkles; you can see it on the cellular level.

thx a lot, infact he is sleeping right now, later i'm going to tell him the truth behind my jealousy.

You aren't a bad person, RSK. Far from it, in fact. You are just human. Bad guys wouldn't feel guilty about inappropriate behavior.

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This^. Just apologize & then be honest about why it bugs you. In 20 years, this will seem like a tiny blip on the radar. Love ya, RSK. Hope school is doing well, sweet.

(Indigo)

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A woman would never make a nuclear bomb. They would never make a weapon that kills, no, no. They'd make a weapon that makes you feel bad for a while.

sing this song to him. He will be so touched.

Grill that muthaf*cka til he cries!

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Heil Frasbee

When he does cry he can cry on my shoulder

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Hazard to Others

RK, if you were a bad guy, you wouldn't even be bothered by this.

I agree with Vash- apologize. Not just to make things right between you and your friend, but to ease your mind. Envy will eat you from the inside out, and exposing it to the light of day will probably diminish it's power.

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I think all women really want is to be proven wrong about men.

I agree w/ Giga, shh!, sombra, & indi!

I agree with what everyone has said here. We all do these nasty little things to friends and people we care about now and then. It's just our insecurities speaking. So I'm sure if you just apologize and explain, everything will be just fine. He obviously has some insecurities as well, if he feels the need to rub all his 'conquests' in your face.

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Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. - Mohandas Gandhi