I am bad at this... very bad...

[BillyGalbreath]

Ok. Here's the deal... Every since I met Robin (first fiancee - 4 years ago - summer before my junior year) my popularity has gone way down... It used to be me hanging out with a big crowd constantly - Everyone knew me and I knew half of the people that knew me... etc etc... If i counted all the friends I had back then It would be at least 500, hell maybe even 1000...
Well, the thing is... Robin was my first sexual partner. And after the fuirst time we did it, I loved it so I always wanted to do it (horny little 16 y/o)... she did not mind one bit - in fact she loved it --- eventually it got to the point to where I was only hanging out with my friends at school and then after school I was with Robin... Well, by the time I graduated my friend count had dropped to about 25 friends. Then right after I graduated I left Robin (you all should know this from other posts by me) and got with Destine...
Well, Destine's little spell or whatever was stronger than Robin's on me. I was up her ass 24/7 (not literally up her ass, but you know what I mean). 1 week after graduation my friend count now was 3. Destine, her brother, and her brothers b/f... So yeah. Well over time Destine's brother and I started to hate each other. So I lost 2 friends out of that. for over a year and a half I only had 1 friend - Destine.
Well, she is gone now. And I dont want her back. I will admit I am not over the breakup - it still hurts like hell and sometimes I cry it hurts so much. But thats not the point. The point is I really dont want a g/f right now. I want to have friends again. I miss being popular and being able to walk down the street or go anywhere and see friends...
Yeah - your all prolly thinking just call up my old friends, right ? Well they have all moved away (well most have) for college. The friends that are still here are either 1) too young (i.e., they are still minors) or B) they hate me now...
So yeah - the one thing that makes it harder on me is that I do not make friends easily. I am extremely shy. I can be in a crowd of 100 people that I knew and be fine, but if 1 person walked up that I did not know I get really quiet... stuff like that... So it is really hard for me to make new friends...
Also, I have no car and a kid... So I am limited on how I get around and the places that I can go. My parents will whatch my son for awhile (maybe 1 hour at a time) so if I go anywhere he goes too. And i dont get to go anywhere unless I get to borrow my dads truck (which is very rare)...
I don't know if I am telling enough of the story for you ppl to understand where I stand in my life right now. But what I am wanting to know is how the f*** does a guy meet new people in the position that I am in ? I am not looking for a g/f either - i am talking guys and girls my age that would be good friends... No more drug heads either lol. I had enough experience with drugs to last a lifetime.
But yeah - thats what I want - friends. How does one obtain such a goal ?

[leight69]

Join a club or take classes. Anything of interest to you, that you might meet like minded people. Nothing with a huge committement, but enough to meet ppl. Always a good place to start. (also lets you plan that time, so making arrangements with your kid.)

[dragoon]

You've got to get out there, a lot. I moved here four months ago, so I was in hyper over drive trying to meet people. There were many days I just wanted to go home and relax, but I'd go to the coffee shops, bars, a John Kerry meeting, or whatever. I'm glad I did, as I've now met a lot of people, and can call a decent number of them friends. I've been very actively looking for groups and such to join: Habitat For Humanity (for some reason this is a great place to meet young, attractive women), Humane Society, political stuff, playing pool at bars, soccer organization, yoga classes, online stuff, coworkers, neighbors, church, you name it I've pretty much tried it, and have had good success. I can even lay claim to an exgirlfriend here. Er, I guess that's not so great

The kid certainly complicate things, but maybe you can find other parents your age? You've instantly got something strong in common.

[hallanole]

look for some single parents support groups. I did that. granted there weren't many out in my boondocks of an area. I made one friend but she had some issues and moved so i lost contact with her.

[BillyGalbreath]

hehe - I am dont really want to go to 'groups' or bars or clubs... I really dont want to go anywhere alone... I know I cant meet ppl by not going anywhere... But its kinda akward to go to a coffee shop by myself and sit there and when someone comes along just start talking to them - I am way to shy for that. Even if I did do that ppl would think I am a nut for just sitting there waiting for someone to come in lmao

idk - in time all things come. we'll just have to wait it out and see I guess...