You know, this really ain't so bad - Love Forum

Charlie Boy II · #1 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 08:54 PM

Being single. I don't want to sound like a cold hearted bastard, but I'm starting to enjoy being single again. I mean truly single, because even while I was overseas I wasn't completely unfettered.

It's nice not having to think about how my actions are going to affect someone else. Sometimes I feel like being in a relationship just creates a lot of pressure. There's a lot of emphasis on what your'e doing or what you're not doing. On how the other person's feeling, and how you're feeling, and how they feel about how you're feeling.

And, I've been getting a fair bit of female attention since I broke up. I mean, just when I've been going out on the weekends. My moons must be all in alignment or something. I've been enjoying myself.

My best mate Henry, he of the "triangle is more powerful than the circle" pick up line just broke up with his girlfriend as well. And there is no better guy to go out drinking with, he's one of the funniest guys you'll ever meet. I reckon I'm not going to be in a relationship again for ages. I just don't have it in me.

LadieNisha4u2nv · #2 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 08:59 PM

There are pro's and con's to the single life, just like there are to being in a relationship. Single is fun at first cuz its when you feel free and like you arent obligated to pelase anyone. Then after a while, you wish you had one specific person to turn to and call yours. Someone to be there for you emotionally physically and all the typical stuff. I'm beginning to hate being single, but I'm not ready for a relationship right about now. I'll continue the single life for a while, but I've already grown to be lonely cuz I love having someone to be with.

Charlie Boy II · #3 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 09:03 PM

yeah but I don't really get that "need someone to be with". I'm not getting into another relationship unless I am well and truly, head over heels in love.

My mum said the other night, she wants to see me get my heart broken. She wasn't being sadistic, she just thinks it's something everyone should go through and I agree. Sometimes I worry that I just don't have it in me.

LadieNisha4u2nv · #4 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 09:17 PM

No no no it's not that I NEED someone, it just feels good to have someone there. I'm not THAT co-dependent lol.

misombra · #5 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 09:35 PM

you remind me of my dad. he is like that too. in fact he just turned 60 this year and he's finally kinda settling down with this woman he's been dating. but he doesn't want to live with her and he doesn't want to marry her.

he's been like that forever. i don't think he's had his heart broken by a woman except when his mother died.

Charlie Boy II · #6 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 09:40 PM

It's funny you say that actually, just as I was typing that before I almost qualified it with "romantic heartbreak". If/when my parents go, I can't imagine how I'll cope. I'm really, really close with both my mum and my dad. That'll f-ck me up for years and years.

shh! · #7 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 09:46 PM

I think it's great to enjoy being single. As for whether or not it gets old after a while - who cares? Being attached gets old, too. You are plenty young enough to change your tune when the urge strikes you. Males have a longer shelf life since they don't carry eggs.

Just be careful not to leave your condoms laying around so some girl can poke holes through them in an attempt to catch you.

Edit: Don't worry about your parents. It's morbid.

misombra · #8 (**permalink**) 07-10-08, 09:47 PM

how old are you again cb?

Gribble · #9 (**permalink**) 08-10-08, 01:44 AM

Can it be? Someone has finally seen the light.

doppelgaenger · #10 (**permalink**) 08-10-08, 01:51 AM

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Originally Posted by misombra

he's been like that forever. i don't think he's had his heart broken by a woman except when his mother died.

Hard to fall in love when your heart has been broken.

Charlie Boy II · #11 (**permalink**) 08-10-08, 05:59 AM

I'm 25, a couple of months off 26 Misombra

Frasbee · #12 (**permalink**) 08-10-08, 06:04 AM

I don't really think about it.

But considering I live with my girlfriend I like thing to be smooth.

Plus I get laid whenever I want.

For the most part.

Mishanya · #13 (**permalink**) 08-10-08, 06:57 AM

Being single is definetly empowering. I loved having all the freedom and doing what I want whenever I wanted. When you don't have anyone with standards to live up to you can just be yourself and live the way you want to.

On the down side though, the older you get the more you get set in your ways and the less ability to adopt to pressures of having a family. Granted, on the plus side you get the experience.

misombra · #14 (**permalink**) 08-10-08, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II

I'm 25, a couple of months off 26 Misombra

you have many more experiences ahead of you.

bluesummer · #15 (**permalink**) 09-10-08, 07:47 AM

I never found being single a negative thing. You need that time to be selfish and do the things in life that are important to you without worrying about another person or how your decisions will affect them. It's good for your personal growth.

I got more accomplished in my short time being single than I ever did coupled.

The reason I was convinced that my fiance was worth selling out my singledom for was that he lets me live how I want, and has supported my growth plans. He doesn't stop me from being who I am or doing what I want. That's the person you hold out for.