I don't know if this happens to any other guy that goes to the gym, but it always happens to me and I'm just curious. When ever I'm lifting in the free weights floor, men about the age of late 30's approach me and start talking. We talk about lifting and what not and then later on, he leaves to finish his reps. He keeps staring at me and then when I finish my rep, he comes and starts talking again. Then he ask for my name and we introduce ourselves. Our conversations ends up going somewhere else and then he ask that if I go and get something to eat with him after working out or "some other time". I said that I had plans prepared for tonight. Then he said, "that's fine, I'll give you my number", then I said, "sure, but I'm about to leave" and he just smiled and left to lift. I kind of creep out of the gym not leaving a trace but making it seem as if I was waiting for him and looking for him just for the heck of it. Then I took off!!!! This is probably the third time that this has happen to me. I mean, I'm not sure if these guys are homos or if they just want friends or what? I mean, I made friends in the gym, but not in this way in exchanging numbers, yah know? So, does this happen to anyone else too?
P.S. I stoped taking showers at the gym.

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Most of the time when two guys that don't know each other talk is because they think the other is cool and they want to be friends and hang out. In your case though... o.ô... I'd honestly be a little suspicious because although I'm not homophobic, I'm straight. There's a chance that these guys aren't homosexual... but when they're staring at you in the gym while you're working out and they ask you to go out to eat the FIRST time you see them... chances are that they are homosexual. At least... that's my opinion. I probably wouldn't know.

Just because there's an outside chance that they are straight... I wouldn't bring it up with them. If you aren't comfortable, I'd say the best advice would be to go to another gym. Maybe just taking a break from the gym would be good. I don't know. It's up to you.

Prodigal, dude, I want to go to the gym. I like being fit. But, bro, last time I took a shower there, I had some weird azz guy staring at my "jimmy" while showering. Showers have no doors. I swear, the gym has homos! But who knows? I could be wrong? I can't believe this situation has only happen to me. Yeh, asking me to go to lunch the FIRST time I met him is kind of freaky.
Dam dudes, I'm freaking scared to go to the gym now. Hum...maybe I should take one of my girlfriends? I use to kick it with a girl I met there, but she is no more.

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Yeah, man, that's a great idea. If you don't have a girlfriend, ask one of your female friends to go to the gym with you and act like she's your girlfriend (If you do have one... well, that's obvious). I think that's a great way to scare off these guys if they really are after you.

And like I said... if you don't feel comfortable there, try to find another nearby gym and see if it is up to par to the one you go to right now. Hopefully you live in a populated area where there would be more than one good gym around.

Hmmm. Why don't we try this . . .

If he asks you to go to lunch with him, say, "No thank you." If he asks why, say, "Well, frankly I'd feel wierd going to lunch with 'some guy' that I talked to one time."

Or is the honest truth too hard?

Alexi

If some guy walked up to me and asked me to go out to eat with him I wouls say "I'm not gay!" This used to happen to me alot and I have had alot of gay friends and always seemed to be surrounded by gay ppl for like 3 years, so this is my natural reaction - it may bre different for you. idk.

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Seriously, why are people so freaked? Why do you need to now bring a "girlfriend" to the gym or quit and go to another one or yell out "I'm not gay!"?!

WTF? Are people THAT uncomfortable about their sexuality?

How about, and think hard about it. It may be dificult, and I don't know if you're man enough to do it, cause it's SOOO damn hard, but how about, for a change of pace, you look at the person and say, . . .

"No thank you."

? Think you can do it? Do you need me to hold your hand while you try? I'll have a cookie ready for you if you can muster up the courage . ...

Alexi

"I'm not gay!" seems to work alot better for me. When I say "No thank you" I get a "Oh come on! it will be fun" and then a arm around me waist pulling me closer... NOT fun !!

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Well that's the part where you threaten to sue for sexual harassment. That's unwanted sexual advances. Also, that's some DAMNED forward gay guys. If anything, it at least gives you a taste of what girls go through at a club or bar. Now you can at least sympathize with them a bit.

Alexi

lol. That's pretty funny, never happen to me before, but picturing some guy walking up and doing that is really hilarious.

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Hey Billy and Alex, I like the arguments, I take intrest in each detail and I agree. Billy does has a point, when saying "no thank you", the strange man will always try to force you to go and say, "oh, it's on me, come on". Then if its a sexual threat, I am not gonna create a scene in the middle of the gym and emberrase the needy homo, that ain't me. Alex, you do have a point that the victim should stand up and have courage for this, but it's really hard to have it done. "It's easier said then done". BUt yeh, I do live in an over populated area, look at my "location" info next to my name. But the gym that I have been going to has a better weight set.
Also, we were talking about abs and he showed me his abs, , what you guys think of that? He offered to show, kinda freaky, huh?

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