Little probelm in the POT.

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Ok last night my b/f and I got into it again. There are only two things we argue about not enough time together and the fact that i smoke twice a week. He does not smoke. He used to. Well about 2 months ago we pretty much broke up over it & I didnt like the way he spoke to me about the issue so I stopped talking to him altogther. He said thats not what he wanted in a girl and i said thats fine & that really hurt because im a great person and he knows it .Then he decided that the issue wasnt so important & that he wanted to be with me. So we got back together& on 4th of July we went to a party at my familys house & spent the night & when the bowl was being passed around he took it and hit it. I was in total shock because i dont expect him to at all. Ever since then everything has been fine.
Until last night i came and picked him up and I had smoked and he was pissed at me. Saying that he hated it when I was like that and that I was weird so of course this bothered me and we argued and he told me that he would appreciate it if I didnt come over like that. So I said no problem. But he needs to stop sending me mixed mess cuz a couple of weeks ago he was like well i want to know about it when you do it and its a part of your life and i want to be a part of your life, but then yesterday he told me that this issue has him torn, and he HATES POT. and well thats it. so we cooled down and he told me that he loves me and all that good stuff and everything was fine.
I am not fine. What happened to accepting me for who I am? I accept him for who he is no matter what. The way i think is that life is too short for bs. i understand him and where he is coming from and i will no longer smoke and come around him but that sucks to. I shouldnt have to not be around him. So why cant he just understand me. why cant he just accept me even if i am a little in the clouds for a little while. The person i want to be with can enjoy my comapny no matter what. I am his girl. I dont leave his side when he drinks and spends all his money at the bar ( this dosent happen often). Love me for my good and the bad.I am tired of him judging me when i am so good to him and to us. when i work so hard. He has to be so harsh. yOU SHOULD HAVE HEARD THE WAY HE SPOKE TO ME!

[MVPlaya]

You're conflating two things:

1. Accepting you
   
   - AND -
   
   
2. Accepting everything you do

Clearly, your boyfriend is accepting you. He still wants to be around you and has made it clear that while he does not enjoy your weedsmoking, overall he is attracted to you. For him to accept you should not require that he agree with everything you do. I can see how you have a problem if he forces you to change your habits, but even that by itself is not extraordinary, since people do have each other change a few things when they date, its part of a relationship.

Here's what it boils down, your boy is stuck-up / goody-goody and he doesn't like smoking weed. He tried it once, not to send a mixed message, but to try to understand what you like about smoking weed and to be a little bit closer to you, in the end, he experimented and came to the conclusion that it wasn't for him. Why should you try and force him to change that? You guys disagree: fine. Live with it.

[jslaughter]

As someone that has been in his shoes . . .(and I am not stuck-up or a goody-goody)

It may come down to him or your pot? What will you chose. Since having to make this choice is pretty much inevitable - break it off with him now instead of breaking his heart later.