Okay. This is my rant for the day. Ever have one of those days when NOTHING and NOBODY seems to care about you at all?? You try and you try to do your very best for the people that matter the most. My God, you even do BACKFLIPS for them and STILL they act all cool and indifferent! What kills me even more is when you've proven your worth over and over again, (not that you were trying or even COUNTING), and then they take you for granted like you're exPECTED to do and say these things for them. How can you show your feelings for someone, (whether it's a friend, family member or EVEN an employer) without them coming to expect it and no longer appreciate the person you are?? I mean, c'mon people! We are all human and NEED to feel appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And incidently, I appreciate you loveforum. YOU ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh could I say something on this one! And more than my 2 cents. But this is strictly work orientated.

In our office, theres me, one other part time 2 dayer, and my boss,(obviously the boss NEVER appreciates me, thats a damn given) but it would be nice if he could just say thank you for your hard work and working WITH ME! Hes an intolerable son of a bitch sometimes(and I know I can be too) but at least I show up to work every damn day!

Ok now the real beef...the other girl...whom is suppose to be also a good friend. (urgh) she bitches when she doesnt work, but when the time comes and she can stay longer, who bails first? Who does all of her work when she is suppose to? YEA ME! Shes a real slacker when it comes down to it, and my boss has seen this, and has tried to intervene, no go. And when I do do her shit so she can leave, do I ever get a thank you for helping? Oh hell no. Its been 5 years of us working together, and its like expected of me to do these things for her. I have my own damn shit Ive got to take care of...my responsiblities slack because she doenst do her shit.

I stick up for her time and time again, and I get shit for it. I am doing the work for both of us, and it just pisses me off, because she never ever thanks me for helpin her. I never get a damn thank you for anything. I bust my ass off there, and have come to the conclusion that is true...Midwest and Northern people do have work ethics, the extreme south could give a shit less, and dont have manners. They dont have jack!

I grew up to appreciate the things people do for me, big AND small and no matter what it is...its just the simple things, these little things mean alot to us, how hard would it be to say "thank you"? two little words...thats all

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A mistake managers often make.

That's why when I become a big-wig I'm going to make sure I have a good awards and recognition program in place.

Really, that makes a huge impact on worker morale, and morale I say is tight with performance.

Manager have to take care of the worker bees and keep them happy. This will yield better results and make them look better.

Sadly, you're not alone, Breez. Probably the majority of managers don't praise and recognize near enough.

Freddie

You said it! But it's not just the job that has got me down these days. I just feel like I've been taken for granted for SO long and I'm exhausted with trying to get reconized; by friends, peers, loved ones. It sometimes feels like I'm invisible. Like trying to piss into the wind. Maybe I'll just take a hiatus from life altogether.

oh wait you do that, than all MY hard efforts go unappreciated! damnit breezy! j/k you know I love you gal!

Ok~ I wish I could understand exactly how you feel, but I cant. I do with the family to some degree, but thats starting to get better...but life in general and everything around you or everyone being unappreciated? Sweetie, maybe because one factor in your life is "shitty" that is clouding everything else? Could be ya know? Sometimes when things are down in one area everything else seems to be as well, nothing can go right...this is kinda how it works...

Heres my thought for the moment...my thoughts could change...I will check back in the morning, but for now, my suggestion is this, DONT change who you are...continue doing what you do as yourself, because the second you start changing and NOT doing those things, you will feel lessor of a person. YOU are a giving person by nature and heart, and that should make you feel GREAT as an individual. Time will pass as the unappreciation will too...dont stop just to make people realize just what a great person you are...they are at the moment just enveloped in their own little worlds, but ya know what FIRLY that will change too, and those around you who love you and adore you and respect you will see what they've been doing, and will resume their appreciation and your efforts of being the person you are!

At times in our lives we forget the ones that we are closest too and how much they really mean to us, we take them for granted without a thought until something happens. I read somewhere that the date of your birth and your death date shouldnt mean shit, but the dash in the middle should count! So~you have already in your 21 years of life have set and made some huge impacts on your surrounding friends and family. I know for the moment things seem like shit, but know, these people you speak of...they do care about you, and the wind youre pissin in? Well the direction of the wind will change and you wont get pissed on anymore! For God is watching over you...and He knows what youre going through...look to Him. He will get you through this and this troubling time in your life, have faith in your friends and family and co~workers.

Ya know, I am so going to take my own advice on this one...never mind, my mind wont change. I stick with this thought. KEEP TRUE TO YOURSELF!

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oh my gosh, firly! .......*sniff*......I just, I just, *sniff* need a minute.....

okay. I SO feel appreciated after that post Squirt! But that was NOT my intention sweetie. I am not into pity parties, however, I thank you immensely anyway. (I just wanted to rant! Venting is good for the soul). It's not just one feature in my life, hun, though. At the moment it's anything and everything. But never fear, firly, I shall persevere! In spite of the adversity, I shall not go quietly into that dark night! These trials and tribulations will NOT take my wonderment and zest for life away. It is times like this that makes me feel TRULY alive, actually. No, I shall not take a hiatus. In fact, I spit in life's face and beg for MORE!!!!!! mmwwhahahahahahaha. Yes. This feels good!!

Breeze, make sure you don't spit into the wind when you try to spit in life's face. Make sure the breeze is going forward.

I do recommend taking a hiatus from life. I take one every night. It's called sleep..heh, heh..

And just for fun, I pity you too. Now that's squirt and Freddie pitying you...making you "pitiful". ha ha.

Just playing, Breeze.. Nobody can pity you. I knew all along you were just venting because you've got it together. We all have to let it out every now and then, so I joined up in your rant for suppport and at the same time to release the pressure valves a little myself.

DAMN THE MAN!!

Freddie

OMG ! That reminds me of what happened about a week ago - LMFAO !

ok.. ok.. so I go into the store to buy some smokes. Next thing I know the guy is like "Can I see your ID please". And I just looked at him funny for a second. I haven't been asked to see my ID in over 2 years ! So as I grab for my wallet to hand him my license I say outloud "This hasnt happened in a long time" - The man then replies, "well, the DMV [or whatever the hell he said] is going zero tolerance." I just gave him another look as if to say "wtf are you talking about?" He then starts to explain what authority he is speaking of, and I interupted him, and said "The man?" He just looked at me for a second then said "... uh.. yeah. The man." I then smiled real big and said "Well, god damn dude, next time just say 'the man is cracking down' !" He then laughed as I walked out of the store.

God damn that was just too funny to me for some reason. Idk - doesn't really fit this thread - just thought I'd throw something in here tho...

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-Billy

i feel that way everytime i drive. raverboy

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Well damn you Freddie! Steal my thunder why don'tcha???
In the infamous words of Mr. Peabody, "quiet you!"
Who is Mr. Peabody you ask? Anyone that grew up in the seventies and got up early to watch Saturday morning cartoons knows. He is a dog. (But very bright, lol)

I saw a glimpse of Mr. Peabody in a Halloween special of the Simpsons when Homer keeps going back in time...remember?? Somebody should. I know someone other than me remembers that Simpsons.

Freddie

Yeah, I remember....
"What happened to us Kodos?"
"Quiet you!"

I have something about The Dash on my computer. Can't remember where it's from but here goes.

I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning ... to the end.
He noted that first came her date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the "dash" between those years (1900 - 1970).
For that "dash" represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth
And only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own;
The cars...the house...the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our "dash".
So think about this long and hard
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger,
And show our appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before
If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy's being read
With your life's actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your "dash"?

Thank you GB for posting that poem. Sounds pretty familiar to what to what I read lastyear, and I just havent forgotten the meaning, it sticks with me. The dash.

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Gosh GB, where did you find that? It had my eyes welling up with tears.
Ne'er a truer word hath been spoke. Thank you for sharing that. I hope not only to make MY dash worth while, but many of the people whom I'm close with.
If they'll let me.
It just seems that in such a busy life as this, we lose each other and sight of what really matters. Friendships. True, honest-to-goodness friendship. People make rash judgements and close themselves off to a kind heart, all because they sometimes feel threatened by it. "Why are they being so nice to me? What's in it for them? What do they want from me? I don't have anything to give them." It's sad that society has made us fear each other this way. Like people can't just be kind for the sake of kindness itself. The other day, I was in the drive-thru at Tim Hortons (best coffee in the world damn it!!!), and I told the girl when I got to the pay window that I wanted to pay for the person's order behind me as well as my own. I did not know this person and I did not know what they had ordered. I just wanted them to have a nice day. She looked at me like I had lost all my marbles! But she agreed. I hope that in some small way by doing that, I made that person smile, but part of me realizes they could have been wondering all day long, what the hell did that person in front of me want? Do they know me? Are they toying with me? That poor soul could have been looking over their shoulder all day long. I hope not though. I hope that it made the beginning of their day special in some small way. I just like doing little things like that for people. It may sound selfless, but really it fulfills a need in me. So it's kinda SELFISH in a way. Go figure.....