Need some advice on this NE Body

[jaycas21]

Ok I am new to this forum. This is what is happening with me I am 23 yrs old and engaged to the most fantastic women on earth. We are very deeply in love. So much that words haven't been invented to describe it.

Here is the deal . At the end of the Dec.of 04 she went to south America to visit her older sister. She was gone from about 3 weeks. She had decided that she did not like her job (which did suck) and leave it and vacation over the holiday break while her semester was out. Her and her sister are very close. She's been back for about two weeks now and says that she did not have enough time and she wants to go back. She says she want to leave this new job she found which is a very good (she says she likes it there) plus she wants to drop out of school and go down for another month. Since we have a wedding to plan and bills to pay and other responsibilities I tell her its not a good idea to go. She can't just drop everything and go. But she says she is unhappy with her life and that she want to go. I really don't want her to go because for one I will miss her (we are best friends) plus I don't think I can work and maintain the bills and save for the wedding and the new condo. But everyday the expression on her face depresses me and it is beginning to effect the relationship big time. We are now fighting always and feeling down

Need some advice I have explained to her how I feel we are very open
but she says she needs this for her and I tell her I need her here. I don't want sacrifice my feeling because I feel she is not taking them into consideration but at the same time her face and mood drains me every second of the day so much that I am at work and on this forum.

[Frasbee]

From what it sounds she is being quite irresponsible towards you, her school and job. At the same time it's understandable the feeling she has, she just feels the need to do something drastic like that to make herself feel better, I've felt it before, and it's hard to decide between what's the intelligent thing to do and what you want to do. If going back really means that much to her, there's really no way you persuade her otherwise.