Okay, it is not! And we all love to gripe about how hard it is to move on.

What are some of the things you say to yourself that has helped or things other people tell you that has helped, or things that you would say to other people that will help them get past that dying flame?

I got one from a book. Here goes.

"You already have an @sshole. You don't need another one."

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"Ogres are like onions."

Artyemi----Erase everything that reminds you about that person. For starters, burn all letters, erase all e-mails, sms', basically all written items from that person.

That's a good start, Chlorine.
What I do, is I tell myself that I don't need the person and that I am better off without them (which is always true). I just kinda shrug my shoulders, throw all reminders of them out or give it away and then focus on forgetting them. Then, once I am content, I move on. I usually start out by hating the person but eventually I just forget they ever existed. It doesn't really take me long since I get over people easily. I don't know if this is the best way to go about things but I never regret anything this way except wasting my time with the person in the first place. I never regret breaking up with people. I've never been broken up with. I always do the leaving. lol I don't put up with bull shit. And if I do, I don't for very long. I move on. Finding someone new may seem like a hard thing to do but it's not. Just make yourself available in a good way. After I broke up with my last ex, I went on a few dates and looked around. I am still looking but I have a date for next week. I am taking my time so I don't make the same mistakes again. No use rushing things. I am young and have years to make a decision. I just went off on a big tangent. Sorry.

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Buy books that tells me how to self-destruct and laugh out loud because it is funny.
Make a book with reminders on why we're not together and realize that even though i miss him, he's not worth my time or my friendship.
erasing all his emails.
deleting his phone number from my phone even though i remember it by heart-- eventually knowing that i'll forget it someday
realizing that the time will come when i will move on and if he keeps mistreating me, there's no reason for me to stay.
telling myself that if he wants me, we'll be together. if not, then no need to force it. just move on.
Reminding myself that I am not a carpet for him to walk over because I am a worthy person.

You did this to yourself.

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Heil Frasbee

yesss.. think that.

then say, if you're the one doing it to yourself, then you can also stop doing it to yourself..

guys, i meant things with a bit of humor in it.

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"Ogres are like onions."