Am I Gay?

[Judo]

(I couldn't find any other subforums for this question)

I'm not afraid of being gay, but I just never saw myself as a homosexual... I still find girls in mini-skirts attractive, and I will glance at girls/women. But, for some reason I can easily identify attractive men. I can recognize attractive male stars, and even guys on the street, I'll be able to tell that a guy has nice eyes (I can't recognize what a cute butt is yet...), or a nice smile. At the same I'm not turned on - which maybe I'm subconciously trying to fight?

I don't know, I'm only a bit worried. Any input would be appreciated.

[shh!]

Homosexuality is a continuum, so it would be rare for someone to be so repelled by the opposite sex that they could not recognize physical beauty when they saw it. The question you ought to ask yourself (this may be simplistic as I am assuming you are pretty young) is when you see yourself kissing, getting married, etc., do you picture doing this with a man or a woman? It might comfort you to know that the people I know who are gay have told me there was never a question in their mind about what they were attracted to; it was always (and only) the same gender.

[Frasbee]

Okay dude.

Anybody can identify an attractive person of the same sex.

I as a guy can look at a guy and think "he is/isn't good looking".

At the same time that doesn't mean I'm attracted to him.

Unless the thought of an attractive guy arouses you, I wouldn't say you're gay.

Fag.

[ultimatum]

I think you have low self esteem, and you are kind of occupied with your looks? It has become a habit for you to identify what is attractive and not in a man?

If this is right, you are of course not gay.

[whaywardj]

Judo: How do you feel, and what does it matter if you are or aren't? Try it and find out. In my late teens, I had the same question. It aggravated me for about a year, so I (a guy), having got tired of wondering about it, started going out with men. I was "gay" for about two years. Then, one day, I kissed a girl at a party and it just went away and I started going out with women again. Have ever since. Either you are, or you aren't; maybe you're bi, maybe you're not; maybe it's a phase, maybe it isn't. Sitting around and wondering about it won't give you any answers, though. Going out and finding out WILL give you answers and, maybe, deep satisfaction and happiness. At least, you'll gain a rich history and a greater understanding of yourself and others.

[Only-virgins]

Om not going to read that but all I have to say is.... " If you have to ask then you are".

[whaywardj]

Drivel, OV. If you'd read the previous, you'd've seen why.