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07-08-05, 02:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Frasbee Wow you sure look enthused about that.
Anyway, one of my cousins (he's 30 somethin') has a strong sense of "asian identity".
This one time he got drunk while we were at a chinese banquet in chinatown, and started preachin' to all us younger crowd (ages varying between 15 and 20) about how we should learn the language, learn how to cook the food and all that jazz that comes with culture. Now it wasn't the first time I heard this stuff and I was already tired of it when he singled me out, that I was the "exception" cause I'm only half.
At first I was like "Yeah, that's right, I'm the exception", but then I started thinkin' about it, and it really got me down.
Since my teenage years my relationship with that side of the family has waned significantly. I definitely set myself apart from them, but when he said that, it made me feel like I was now completely out of place, as if it was no logner just me that felt that way, but they felt that way too.
I still resent the ****ers to this day. I feel you bro!  | |
07-08-05, 06:25 PM
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Originally Posted by Frasbee Wow you sure look enthused about that.
Anyway, one of my cousins (he's 30 somethin') has a strong sense of "asian identity".
This one time he got drunk while we were at a chinese banquet in chinatown, and started preachin' to all us younger crowd (ages varying between 15 and 20) about how we should learn the language, learn how to cook the food and all that jazz that comes with culture. Now it wasn't the first time I heard this stuff and I was already tired of it when he singled me out, that I was the "exception" cause I'm only half.
At first I was like "Yeah, that's right, I'm the exception", but then I started thinkin' about it, and it really got me down.
Since my teenage years my relationship with that side of the family has waned significantly. I definitely set myself apart from them, but when he said that, it made me feel like I was now completely out of place, as if it was no logner just me that felt that way, but they felt that way too.
I still resent the ****ers to this day. I'm treated differently from my white side because I'm half asian. I know how it feels... | |
07-08-05, 11:33 PM
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| | | Kiechi and Frasbee - what's up with your families? That is so freakin' sad, I don't know what to say, other than I'd like to smack them all silly. What is WRONG with people? | |
08-08-05, 12:07 AM
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| | | If your not part of a multicultural family (and I'm not talking about you being half Irish, a quarter Scotish, and a quarter Italian), I'm talking about having a mixture of some kind of asian and or african american - something that makes you stand out - then otherwise it's hard to understand.
But mixed races produce some of the most gorgeous and exotic looking kids! | |
08-08-05, 12:09 AM
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Originally Posted by RSK If your not part of a multicultural family (and I'm not talking about you being half Irish, a quarter Scotish, and a quarter Italian), I'm talking about having a mixture of some kind of asian and or african american - something that makes you stand out - then otherwise it's hard to understand.
But mixed races produce some of the most gorgeous and exotic looking kids! Your mixed? | |
08-08-05, 12:43 AM
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| | | I'm not mixed. But I have cousins that are. And I see them getting treated differently - kind of like 'outcasts'.
To me, the whole think is ****ed up! I don't think it's fair the way they get treated (or mistreated) by the so called 'elders, and respectable ones' in my family.
I don't know what it's like in your shoes, but I know it's gotta suck. But I'm sure you have a strong connection with both your parents, and that is what is important, right? | |
08-08-05, 12:46 AM
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Originally Posted by RSK But I'm sure you have a strong connection with both your parents, and that is what is important, right? Not particuarly. | |
08-08-05, 02:15 AM
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| | | I grew apart from my mother around the same time I grew apart from the asian side. But there's other reasons for that.
And my dad.
He's not the affectionate type, very quiet about that stuff, so I wouldn't say we're close either.
What I feel matters most is if you strong connections with any siblings you have.
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08-08-05, 02:29 AM
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Originally Posted by Frasbee I grew apart from my mother around the same time I grew apart from the asian side. But there's other reasons for that.
And my dad.
He's not the affectionate type, very quiet about that stuff, so I wouldn't say we're close either.
What I feel matters most is if you strong connections with any siblings you have. I grew apart from siblings also. Hell, at the moment my father/mother/brother/sister are all in Asia, whilst I am at home alone, and you know what? I'm loving every single minute of it. | |
08-08-05, 02:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Kiechi I grew apart from siblings also. Hell, at the moment my father/mother/brother/sister are all in Asia, whilst I am at home alone, and you know what? I'm loving every single minute of it. Damn you guys sure travel a lot.
I'd like to visit my brother in Oklahoma (he's stationed there by the military) but it would just be impractical at this point.
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| | | Yeah. Hopefully I be taking a trip to Venice in a few weeks with friends. Since I come back from Roma I've realised I'm absoloutly in love with Italy.
Yeah. Well I hope everything goes well with Americorps Choi, sounds intresting, you should have a blast. Remember though there is always time after to see siblings right? | |
08-08-05, 02:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Kiechi Yeah. Hopefully I be taking a trip to Venice in a few weeks with friends. Since I come back from Roma I've realised I'm absoloutly in love with Italy.
Yeah. Well I hope everything goes well with Americorps Choi, sounds intresting, you should have a blast. Remember though there is always time after to see siblings right? Yeah they're givin' us Christmas and New Years off, it'll be interesting comin' back home and visiting everybody.
I just need to get my birth certificate, mine's lost so I had order another one.
I'm glad they waited to the last minute to tell me I needed one.
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| | both of you just hijacked my thread  | |
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| | | Look, from what I can see you have an attraction to women with an exotic flare. The fact is the right mixture of exotic features can be very attractive. And the women you describe having a penchant for have a nice mixture of feature. The have that exotic look to them, but yet still have classic westernize beauty. The fact is when a Italian, Spanish, or Western European woman is hot/attractive she is really hot and attractive. And I gather that you are attracted to the lure, the promise of attractiveness, of the higher end and more beautiful of the females in these particular ethnicities, and thatis understandable. As long as you're not excluding attractive women of other ethnicities than you're fine!!!
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11-08-05, 10:01 AM
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Originally Posted by RSK both of you just hijacked my thread Comes with the territory.
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