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16-06-07, 08:41 AM
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| | | I went 12 months without seeing my boyfriend once. But right now, not seeing him for a few days seems life-threatening. My point is you will get used to whatever the current situation is.
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16-06-07, 09:02 AM
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| | | I think the hardest part, especially at your age, is when you get together you expect to pick up right where you left off the last time you were together, with a kind of "instant intimacy". You don't see that you yourself have changed, grown, developed, deteriorated, or encountered a bunch of unshared experiences - and it doesn't occur to you to allow for that in your B/F or G/F. At your age these things are probably happening faster than any other time in your life.
You need time to get re-acquainted. That sounds pretty straightforward and easy, but in fact it's not. Nor do I know how to make it happen, but jus knowing about it may help you.
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16-06-07, 09:13 AM
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Originally Posted by daletom  . . . Nor do I know how to make it happen, . . . On second thought maybe I can make a suggestion. There was this girl - back in the time when dinosaurs roamed the earth - and we wrote letters to each other. On paper. With pens and pencils, if you can imagine such a thing. Probably 2 or 3, maybe 4 times a week. Sometimes we sent lovey greeting cards. Or dumb things, like a check (checque?) for $0.10, and the admonition "Don't spend it all in one place.". This went on for almost 3 months; most of a summer. We hadn't even laid eyes on each other!
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16-06-07, 09:22 AM
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| | | though, I have to say, my boyfriend has known me during pretty much the biggest personality changes/developments in my life, and we only saw each other every few months (six visits over 2.5 years) and I never encountered this problem. I do miss him like crazy for two or so weeks after being together, but believe me it really does become totally bearable.
Being around the one you love is pretty much like being on drugs. You're in withdrawal, and it will pass.
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16-06-07, 01:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Tiay . . . my boyfriend has known me during pretty much the biggest personality changes/developments in my life, and we only saw each other every few months (six visits over 2.5 years) and I never encountered this problem . . . Any ideas about what helped keep you two together? | |
16-06-07, 10:27 PM
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| | | I guess because those changes brought us closer together rather than growing apart. It could happen the other way round too.
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17-06-07, 12:34 AM
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| | | my long distance relationship was the longest relationship. I'm pretty sure it was because we didn't see eachother everyday. We saw eachother like..six times a year..and my visits would be about three or four days. Younger couples can get tired of seeing eachother constantly very quickly. So everytime i wasn't visiting him, i hung out with friends and had a good time. so you DO get used to it. and it can be a good thing.
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17-06-07, 01:21 PM
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| | | you need a hobby. find something to do. i'm a full time professional web-designer. i don't have time to worry about girls or miss people. you just need something to do.
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17-06-07, 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Steve2004 my long distance relationship was the longest relationship. I'm pretty sure it was because we didn't see eachother everyday. We saw eachother like..six times a year..and my visits would be about three or four days. Younger couples can get tired of seeing eachother constantly very quickly. So everytime i wasn't visiting him, i hung out with friends and had a good time. so you DO get used to it. and it can be a good thing. i don't think so. my brother and his girlfriend practically live together and they're only 17. they never get sick of seeing eachother!
and i never got tired of seeing my ex girlfriend... but i think she got tired of seeing me. thank god for work!
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17-06-07, 01:50 PM
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Originally Posted by lilwing i don't think so. my brother and his girlfriend practically live together and they're only 17. they never get sick of seeing eachother! huh. maybe i'm just a douche and really dont like the guys i date.
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17-06-07, 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Steve2004 huh. maybe i'm just a douche and really dont like the guys i date. that doesn't make sense. then again, there was that guy that shoved you out of your car.. i would get sick of that guy too.
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17-06-07, 02:09 PM
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17-06-07, 02:11 PM
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Originally Posted by lilwing that doesn't make sense. then again, there was that guy that shoved you out of your car.. i would get sick of that guy too. ...i'm glad we're on the same page.
Originally Posted by bohemiandonut Whoah what?
Haha how does that happen? (did) ?
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17-06-07, 02:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Steve2004
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Originally Posted by lilwing View Post
that doesn't make sense. then again, there was that guy that shoved you out of your car.. i would get sick of that guy too.
...i'm glad we're on the same page.
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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut View Post
Whoah what?
Haha how does that happen? (did)
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...i'm glad we're on the same page.
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