How Much Have You Changed?

[Illusional]

i'd say that within the past 5 years, i've put on about 5 pounds or so... dammit.

raverboy

[Off2College]

5 Years eh... that would be around the start of high school.

1. Discovered porn/masturbation (didn't masturbate until grade 10)
2. Discovered that you gotta work for what you want
3. Got rid of my public shyness (although I am still introverted in private)
4. Accepted that my parents still have sex (big jump for me back in High school)
5. Finally got the guts to talk to girls I like. Now I actually strike up conversations or at least approach every single girl that fancies my attention
6. Still got very few friends. Actually, zero good friends at the moment. This only changed towards the end of high school, but now it seems I'm back where I was at the start of high school. Zilch friends...
7. Discovered my need to find the meaning of life (no luck, yet)
8. Discovered that the world around my immediate self ain't as nice & dandy as I once presumed it to be.

[Kromat]

June 2008 - convinced my dance partner in beginner to try out in the competition, and have a fun time.
* I thought I didn't do that well, but she acknowledged that I still dance very well.
- Joined Lavalife to get some dating under my belt, and know how to deal with different situations.
* I got a few replies, and kept in touch with a few of them.
* This one has had a problem with her dad, so she's taking some time until he feels better, but I still need to date others to see who's out there.
* Quit my machining job, because it just isn't something that I'd like to do in the future after doing it a few years.
* Got my G License Finally & Bought a car.

July 2008 - Started taking Real Estate courses, so have a better career, than my previous job.
- I got messaged by another girl at Lavalife, and we have been talking for almost a month now, and seem very interested in each other where it doesn't feel awkward, and will see how it's going to work out.

August 2008 - Went alone on a 120 km walking pilgrimage with other polish catholics, and met some wonderful, helpful people that made it a very special experience for me.
I also met a girl that has a lot of similar interests and lives about 5 mins away from me, that I'll see what happens out of it.

[bluesummer]

The last five years have been monumental for me, and have changed me like no other period in my life. A lot of it centered around my marriage and eventual divorce. That particular experience produced the following results:

- I learned respect for myself
- It completely turned my expectations of relationships on its head
- I realized that my life goals should be of higher priority - so I went back to school to finish my degree
- I learned to actively go after things I want; and that if I want something, all I have to do is say that I can have it, and I do
- I learned to dig deeper into people and really try to know them, rather than guaging them at face value
- I've learned how to trust people again, finally
- I've become less emotional....it's much harder to make me cry or make me angry

I'm happy with who I've become over the last five years. I don't think I'll ever be done working on myself, though. There's still lots of kinks to iron out

[ACR]

You guys were right with all the advice you gave me when I was 17.

I am 19 now and have changed so much it would take forever to list.

Life is good now though.

[Frasbee]

You guys were right with all the advice you gave me when I was 17.

I am 19 now and have changed so much it would take forever to list.

Life is good now though.

Course we were right, we would never do you wrong.

Now go tell that to that little 16 year old british girl who is so desperately in love with a 21 year old bi-polar guy she never met.

[ACR]

Haha, I saw that already.

It reminded me of myself. ;]

The girl I had fallen so madly in "love" with dumped me the next weekend and I had stayed single throughout the rest of my high school year being upset about it.

Ah, precious high school memories.

I always hate looking back at things because it reminds you of how stupid you were. (I was?)

Take this for example, three years from now I will look back at this and laugh because I thought I had it all figured out now.

Bwahahaha

[1averagejoe]

I always hate looking back at things because it reminds you of how stupid you were. (I was?)

Take this for example, three years from now I will look back at this and laugh because I thought I had it all figured out now.

Bwahahaha

No reason to feel stupid...Even smart people make pretty bad mistakes, the difference between them and an idiot is...the smart person doesn't make the same mistake again.

[Gribble]

ACR, I wish more people were capable of grasping reality as you do.

[ACR]

Reality? Whats that? ;P

Haha nah, its all about that "live and learn" type thing.
Fortunately for me I have met some amazing people that have given me great advice.

This forum was the first step...haha

[boobaa]

5 Years eh... that would be around the start of high school.

1. Discovered porn/masturbation (didn't masturbate until grade 10)

From what planet are you from? What species?

[Charlie Boy II]

I really don't know. I wouldn't say there have been too many dramatic transformations since I was 20. I'm more confident, I feel like more of a man. I've learned that suffering and tragedy are regular, unavoidable guests throughout the course of one's life. And I suppose at 20 I expected my life to unfold neatly, without me really having to do anything except go along for the ride. I've learned that to get the life you want you have to seize it. And I've learned to appreciate what exceptional human beings my parents are, and how lucky I am to have them.

[anachronistic]

5 Years eh... that would be around the start of high school.

1. Discovered porn/masturbation (didn't masturbate until grade 10)

You forgot "Grew an opposable thumb".

[Taranee]

Between now and 5 years ago:

I finally found out that the guy I loved was an egotistical loser. After all the advice during the years it still took me 5 years to realize this and to get over him… I’m done putting my own feelings aside just to make someone else happy.

I am never ever going to hide my feelings or sacrifice myself again in order to make someone else happy. Why should I suffer for who I am or what I feel?

There have been many downs during these 5 years. To be honest I’m just happy that I am still around.

I have found out exactly who my friends really are…

During the past 5 years I have learned how to adapt during drastic life changes without freaking out.

Even though I still don’t know what my passion is in life (in other words my dream job, I keep changing my life to find out) during these 5 years:

I have become more myself and not what others expect/want me to be. I learned a lot of spiritual things (meditation, astrology, religion). I learned how to belly dance. I learned how to cook. I'm trying to find the things that I like and enjoy so I can life my life to the fullest.

I have also noticed I have become more feminine. Five years ago I never paid any attention to wearing skirts and make-up. But now chandelier earrings, high heels and everything. It’s like my appearances are important to how I feel about me. It’s fun being a woman!!

[shh!]

Meh, I've had no great changes to the essence of my being in the last 5 years.