Your advice would really help:
My ex, who i dated for two years and just broke up with 3 months ago has started to contact me again. She was the one who wanted to seperate and I obviously didnt. We spoke about a month after the break up and I laid it out for her that I love her and want nothing else. She said she still really cares about me but she just needed time to heal and everything(we broke up because we were in a rut of continuous arguing over small things). So we left it that maybe something will come up in the future but she wouldnt want to try again any time soon.
So now, over the past 2 months following that discussion she still texts, calls, etc. about once or twice a week. I make no effort to reach out to her; she initiates everything. Mostly she just says " oh this made me think of you" or asks about work/grad school, etc- basically just some updates with how im doing. What should i make of this? Is she trying to become friends(we both said we couldnt do it because of how we feel about each other)? Or, is she realizing she made a mistake and wants to keep me in the picture?
More importantly, how should I play this? As of now, I've just been replying and keeping it light. If she is trying to be friends I cant do that-for my own mental health. But, if you think she is trying to reconcile, then how should i act?
Thanks for your help.